I'm the same about needing someone to bounce thoughts off of. I have a few people that I go to to talk things out. As you say, they in turn give me advice or thoughts from their perspective that I may not have thought of. I sift through what others tell me and see what rings true for me. I'm always hesitant to rely just on my own intution or thoughts about something because I feel that, being just one person with a limited view, that I may have missed something. I then ruminate about what they've said and after a time, come to feel what's right or a path to take. For some, I may appear to be a ship drifting with the wind, but in actuality, I'm listening and assessing.