yeah, like you should hide yourself from the world, dissociate yourself from your body, and perhaps eventually kill yourself because you're not accepted. shame isn't a reality check, because it's not reality. analytical types aren't robots, and Fe doms aren't superficial, and Ne doms aren't flakes. the problem with shame is that it suggests something that's not true: it only gives one side of the story, and that's the side that's not yours. think about it - there's no shame in the context of no other people. shame is entirely a social feeling brought on by rejection, either real or predicted. it relies completely on the outside perspective, and pushes you away from trusting yourself. it's not good. if anything, shame is mainly a bullshit means of control by people who don't have the balls to deal with ideas that are unappealing to them.Shame is good. Shame is a reality check. Everyone is subject to it equally. Shame teaches us lessons.