This is a little bit of a philosophical question...
It seems as I learn more about type that we are somewhat bound by our type in how we behave. We can learn and grow and stretch ourselves, but when it comes down to most of life we are going to behave according to our basic natures.
I've noticed that many people post that they want to be a different type.
So my question is - why can't we be the people we want to be?
I used to assume that if someone acted rude or nice or silly that they were acting that way because they wanted to.
And then I realized that if I were to choose a personality for myself, I would be a raging extrovert, organized and grounded in reality. I would be super friendly with everyone and be a real encourager.
Instead, I am so introverted that I avoid calling people back on the phone, even when it is important, and even when I know that their feelings are probably hurt. I am completely unorganized and reality is a fleeting concept for me.
am not complaining, I just don't understand why we can't just decide who we are going to be?
I know many of you will reply and say "Just be who you want to be," but it really isn't that easy. That only works when I am full of energy and can resist my natural impulses.