I recently started seeing this guy, and I am already totally crazy about him. Problem is, he's an ENTJ, and typical of his type, is busy all the damn time. When we do get to spend time together, I have 100% of his attention, which makes me feel like a million bucks. Unfortunately, that time is pretty limited by his hectic schedule (and to be fair, mine too), and he's not great at doing little things to let me know that he's still thinking about me.
Logically, I understand all of this completely. I honestly don't think he's jerking me around or purposely being distant, but in typical INFJ fashion I have a tendency to freak out if too much time goes by without hearing from him. So far he has been a total rockstar about dealing with my freakouts, but I'd rather figure out how to prevent them from happening in the first place.
Also, although I admit that I am utterly infatuated, I've realized that I do want to take this relationship reasonably slow. I want to make sure that I take time to learn about who he really is rather than project all of my own ideals onto him. So in that sense it's actually really good that we only manage to see each other once every week or so, even though my emotional side is screaming "WE NEED TO BE TOGETHER ALL THE TIME, I CAN'T LIVE WITHOUT YOU, YOU'RE THE MAN OF MY DREAM, OMG!!!"
So, I guess the question is, how do other INFJs handle infatuation? Have you ever learned to play it cool in a new relationship? How do you deal with insecurity?