Yeah one of my best friends is an ENFJ and the ladies really like him. He's smart, friendly, nice, funny... he's like the Jesus type ENFJ and seems to tick all the right boxes. I can't say I've ever been really attracted to an ENFJ though. A lot of people can't tell (not people here on MBTI though), but they're one of the hardest people to really get to know. I need more than the classic bf/gf criterion for me to be really attracted to someone. I need genuine communication, expression and understanding, even if it's about all your weaknesses. Heck, I find that very human and pleasant for the most bit. Probably a type 4 thing.
Chimera of Filth
A gruesome beast with dripping flesh
Clings to me as a sick fixture
My throbbing heart it gnawed apart
It stalks and hunts me through mirrors
I'm actually going through a phase now where I'm much more secure in who I am, which, strangely, makes me more closed off--meaning, unless we develop a closeness of some kind, I am not obliged to spill everything about myself to you, or to anyone else. I often see this as a positive in an ENFJs life, because that sort of "forced openness so people will like me" isn't healthy...and provides little guarantee that people will like you.