It's not specifically an "NF" topic but I know I'll probably get more responses if I post here than elsewhere
I wonder if others have a history of their unfinished business emerging in dreams. It's very strange and can occasionally be quite frightening/disconcerting.
I don't remember my dreams very often any more...I'd say that's been the case for at least the last six or seven years. But I had a dream last night involving a guy I'm currently interested in, a guy I used to be interested in and am probably no longer even friends with, and a couple of mutual friends. Although I'm no longer friends with the one guy I am still concerned about him to an extent and there is stuff on my mind and the dream reflected that. The guy I'm interested in is also "unfinished business" because I am not sure where it is going at the moment.
I woke up feeling slightly "oh no" about the whole thing. I mean, there was nothing super-weird about it. But, it reminds me of some recurring unfinished business dreams in my past. When I was 19-20 I fell out with a friend at university who I'd also had feelings for for some time. We'd been having philosophical arguments for years, disagreed fundamentally about pretty much everything, and eventually it just became too personal and nasty. We barely spoke beyond cold hellos if we ran into each other, for the next three years. And, I had a recurring dream about meeting him and resolving things - over those three years! When I say recurring, I mean probably once every few months, which was more than enough to freak me out. Eventually we spoke again and more or less resolved things, at least enough to be genuinely amicable again. And, the dreams stopped.
It really is interesting. I have found that there have been matters in my life that I really thought I had dealt with and put aside, that they just weren't issues any more. Then - they resurface in dreams. From somewhere even lower than the subconscious, it seems. And I realise it's still unfinished business.