Here's something that has always puzzled me -
I am an INFJ and I have had no end of guys in general who are/were enamored with me. But back when I was dating and I really liked a guy, he would generally run in the other direction or just not be interested in anything other than friendship.
Why was it so easy to catch "any" guy, but so impossible to catch the ones I really liked? It's like the same flirting techniques that worked on the duds, drove away the good ones.
I did eventually find the right guy, who actually liked me back, but that duality of being very popular with guys in general but not popular with the guys I liked, has always been a mystery to me.
What do you think?