I get mixed reactions too. I find that probably because I'm not terribly outspoken right away and because I do appreciate people more extroverted that I am, sometimes people perceive me as either more blandly sweet than I am, or as a bit of a pushover, which I certainly am not. On the other hand, I am relatively low maintenance, feminine and warm, which appeals to some men. I've realized that probably I have to guard against insecure, but confident seeming men either looking to me to make their life better while still remaining in charge and also lonely men that other people are rude to mistaking civility and non-unkindness as interest. I think I'm pretty good with the give and take part of things, although as I get more invested I need to guard against giving too much, instead of expecting more of an equal exchange. It seems to me that maybe I come off as a little bit maternal/idealized woman to some men, which appeals to them, but may not be something then that they'd actively pursue. The responses from male and female friends aboiiut how they perceived me before they knew me really vary. I've been very surprised to realize that some did feel intimidated, because if anything I think I'm quite warm and transparent, but I guess because I tend to wait for others to show interest, I ask questions, but offer less for answers unless they express interest in knowing something. I probably would share stories to relate to someone, but not share a lot of my real self unless I knew they really were interested and they were someone I thought was trustworthy.