All of this sounds so familiar. I have had a lot - a LOT of unrequited situations, and every one of them looked completely different physically. But all had similar personality qualities I found attractive: intelligent, funny, eclectic interests, a passion for something, and some artistic interest. I was drawn most to those who made me laugh the most. I was weirdly quite content with getting to know them as friends and trying to express myself though doing things for them instead of just saying how I felt; yet yearning for a physical relationship, when they were generally content with just being friends, and when my feelings flared things got confusing and usually for me, quite humiliating. With each guy, I almost felt like I was burying my feelings deeper and deeper in a hole. It's a big deal for me to actually admit anything anymore, because it's gotten so difficult. I need someone who is confident in that department and who can take charge.
I find it impossible to 'casually date' (or, really, 'sleep around') because I get bored with small talk and even more bored with behavior that is not genuine. I don't respond well to people who want to merely sleep with me instead of getting to know me as a person. Ironically, all I ever do is casually date people for a while to "suss them out." I almost never get physical - and for those I have made out with, they were men I knew a long time beforehand. Some people have been incredulous about this reasoning, but the ones who matter will understand and respect it.
A brain, a dash of creativity (doesn't have to be a lot...just enough where I can bounce my ideas off of him and discuss them), and a hint of childlike, intense interest in something. Oh yes, and certain amount of confidence in themselves...or some aspect of themselves (along with the ability to be humble with the parts of themselves they aren't confident in).
It's really hard for me to let go of my own ideals - I feel like I am looking for that "perfect" person, and I don't mean physically, but mentally. I'm not saying physical appearance doesn't matter at all, I do have my standards, but a lot more important to me is what's inside their mind, their heart - basically inside "their souls". I am looking for a soulmate, someone who understands me and appreciates me as for who I am. Who I can be at complete peace with.
I am generally attracted to two types of people; out-going and humoristic, funny people, and then to more avoidant, shy, and "mystical" people. Both sorts represent me in a way; I recognise these sides in me, and I love how Extraverts bring enthusiasm and energy to my life; but I also love more quiet and thoughtful people, who I can really relax and talk to on a deeper level.
Usually I'm attracted to gentleness, kindness, calmness and sensitivity.
Certain kind of face though I'm not sure I could describe it. I think I've already talked about the triangle formed by a woman's femurs and how they connect to her ilium. Intelligence seems to do something for me as well as shared values and being fun helps. Oh yes, being able to understand what I am saying or at least having an interest can earn serious points.
Dreams are best served manifest and tangible.
INFP, 6w7, IEI
I accept no responsibility, what so ever, for the fact that I exist; I do, however, accept full responsibility for what I do while I exist.