istp told me that sometimes i do not act like myself around certain people. initially, i was offended by this, but then i started thinking maybe this is true. especially because this has been pointed out to me more than once by people i have been dating.
my analysis is that i know i have my two-sided personality. the deeper, introspective me and the mad-hype puppy love bouncy me... they are both ME! i tried to explain this, but istp kept arguing that i should "be myself" and relax around his friends. i am being myself! i'm just guarding what is important to me (the inner part), just as i would assume other people would do. it seems this is not that unusual, and i don't think that i'm putting up a front. i'm just not laying it all out there. istp seems to think that everyone would love me if they knew the "real me," (i.e. less bubbly extroverted) and i get what he's saying, but i don't think he's right. it's not that i feel like i have something to prove (altho, who are we kidding -- i'm enfp and love attention)... i don't know.
i feel like i did a really poor job of explaining this to istp... and to make matters worse... the waterworks started... the whole NF misunderstood, taking his comments personally crap.... followed by the routine apologies for being overemotional. hahaha. ridiculous.
point is, do any other enfps experience this? am i not being myself? and if i am, like i think i probably am, what is a better way to explain this to someone else?