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    Default Ideal Characteristics in a Partner

    Hi,
    I'm a (male) INTJ and I was hoping some of you could tell me what (female) INFPs want in a (romantic) partner.
    Thanks for your help

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    Someone with a passion for something. Whether it be music, writing, cars, dancing, sailing. By having a passion for something you show that there is an activity that you love and that you commit to. You also, indirectly, demonstrate that you are independent, have your own space, and do not need to rely on her attention all the time in order to feel satisfied.

    A person who will respect their values and give them space. If she says, "I like bird watching. There's something incredibly relaxing about it and I love seeing birds take off." Don't reply with "but what's the point? It doesn't even achieve anything." I can't speak for all INFPs but I tend to be very quiet yet fiercely protective of my values and those who are close to me. Never verbally attack someone important to her; she may react as though you have attacked her directly. Also, if she shares something with you or tells you what is important to her, listen. Concepts like identity and authenticity are important to the girl, a guy who is accepting or showing a willingness to learn is a must.

    I understand that NTs (huuuge generalisation, don't shoot me) may dislike wishy-washy stuff (why are you reacting to this so personally/ yeesh, it's just a song/ yeah but dragons don't exist in real life) but just be patient. Of course there are limits to much one responds emotionally in a given situation but I'm sure you can judge for yourself.

    General:
    Guys who can cook
    Guys with a sense of identity :P
    Guys who are not overly emotional but at the same time know how demonstrate an understanding of "feelings"
    Mental strength
    Guys who don't let small things affect them
    Wit/sense of humour
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    Kindness
    Respect
    Generosity (not necessarily monetary generosity) is a huge plus
    Smarts (i.e. someone I can talk to) is most excellent
    Sense of humor is nice, it would be better if his sense of humor is close to mine
    Sense of honor and chivalry
    He should like to be active
    Financially responsible
    He should have his own hobbies
    He should be a good kisses and like to cuddle

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    I want someone who appreciates and realizes the good qualities in me. Who I am amazes/impresses/intrigues him just as who he is amazes/impresses/intrigues me.

    My good and important qualities is my compassion for all living creatures, my desire to do something important and wide in scope, my sometimes wonky but always present humor, how I never discuss the past, don't care about the past, but I always share my visions of the future and whatever ideas/feelings I have at the present moment.

    Specific trait includes passion and desire for life, for innovation, for achievement, for love, for humor, for intelligence, for compassion. Open-minded and unconventional. The most important thing is that connection, that understanding and mutual appreciation and fascination with each other.

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    More list-o-mania!

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    I like to start with the characteristic of breathing, and then I go from there.

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    Im not an INFP but heres my list:

    Patience
    Understanding
    Mature
    Funny
    Good communication skills
    Similar taste in music
    Has an interest in art
    Responsible
    Honest
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    Here is an idealized list of qualities that i would love in a partner
    1. great mental connection, we would understand how the other mind works and where each of us is coming from, we could talk and debate endlessly and never get bored of each others company.
    2. friendly, kind and respectful towards people and maintain a sense of chivalry in relationships.
    3.sense of humour which is witty,goofy and maybe even silly.
    4. loves affection
    5. willing to accept my faults as I would accept his.
    6. physically attractive to me but not absolutely essential, i tend to fall for a guy's personality more.

    i think this shows i am a die hard romantic

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    I'm not really a girl, but...

    yeah.

    [YOUTUBE="http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=AR5_5l5rzok"][/YOUTUBE]

    If someone's feelings for me matched that song...

    EDIT: Here's the link until the video decides to work

    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=AR5_5l5rzok
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    Quote Originally Posted by tkae. View Post
    I'm not really a girl, but...

    yeah.
    A girl who likes my moosic

    [YOUTUBE="http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YLx0fjCnsFs"].[/YOUTUBE]
    [URL]https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tEBvftJUwDw&t=0s[/URL]

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