I used to have this feeling of being a "last resort" friend. Like, if there's no one else available, then I'd get a call. But still, people would sort of admire me (for lack of better description) from a distance, as I guess I can seem somewhat smart & independent & creative. I realized it was not so much that people did not like me, than that they were intimidated by me or thought I was disinterested, because there's that aloof aspect to me too. ENFPs, being Es, will usually seem warmer & yes, their personality is less hidden. I think the INFP demeanor only suits most people in a one-on-one situation, namely, a "therapy session". So you find people only calling you up when they need that some emotional support.... But that will only happen if you let it. Really, I don't find myself in that situation so much anymore, and it's because I've worked on being less withdrawn when I first meet people & filtering out the emotional vampires.