I've got a huge problem ! I am circled by F-types and they wont stop picking on me. It even has come so far that my gf wants me to go to a psychologist to talk about my depressions ?!
But first things first: all similiarities in the following text to real world persons are explicitly wanted but totally random at the same time !
Do you generally think an infp / entp relationship would be appealing of any kind ? I mean they have virtually nothing in common: the one is Jeanne D'Arc the bookworm, who laughs her ass off when her cat plays with a huge fly but then in the end steps in to rescue the fly, commenting it with the words she doesnt like it when animals suffer. And the other is a loveable jerk, who is reactive to mood swings with a response time of 5 µs; who lives easily in 5 different worlds, tho always being constant about himself and what he wants, namely he wants that what the others dont want, which is in this sense not transferable on people cause with people he generally likes to be admired or hated, it's only important that the feeling is as strong as possible.
Isnt there like no classical connection or feeling which would make two kindred akin of that kind ? It maybe has something to do with the entp being really reactive to feelings and therefore maybe making it easier for the infp to life his / her own feelings, but then again if the entp isnt admired 24/7 this would be fail too and the subjective sometimes even pragmatical approach of the infp to rigourusly break a wounded animals neck without hesitation for the greater good, can frighten the eff out of entpeople.
Ok so far so good, I am feeling better.
There are nice things of course too, one for example the Ne-Ne connection of both and both finding it not necessarily important to do what society wants from them. A little sexual innuendo with style after a few beer in public in front of middle-class white citizen, in which the infp asks the entp if he can tell her about the friction the cock does when moving up and down in the engine cylinder and how only good lubrication can help eliviate the building tension the surface is experencing: is a classic !
But the entp is a worrier. Words like "What if" or "If I had done this, this and this would have happened" are second nature. This all works in an unchecked environment. While the infp clearly says dogs are bad and cats are good and this is to noone understandable except for the infp, the entp rather says well they both have their pros and cons, then speaks about them all for three and a half hour to draw the conclusion that he cant decide on one option right now. WARNING UPCOMING TANGENT: one may think the E and I difference between both is a problem, but thats not true. Entps aint that social beasts except they have missed something in their youth. The real E/I difference really lies in the infp living in a rational world that he judges by how he feels about it, while the entp is more in a defective irrationalö world of asumptions, the infp's Te needs to correct on a daily basis. The infp's Te tho isnt really stressed by that and easily develops better into an organized thinking way, while the entp's Fe learns to pout grande because the infp is always right.
But what happens when the entp's irrationality, untamed as she is, takes over ? Imagine we have an entp whose mother suffered from strong depressions and even went to a doctor with that. Her son will needlessly to say, take on some of her attitudes aswell. When then an untamed assumptive master of connecting the impossible speaks his mind and all he gets as an answer is the assertive Te answer which is: "close your mouth or a fly flies in it", depressive earthquakes are imminent.
Well in conversation I found out about this habit of mine now. And I hope I can manage to deal with it. I am not depressive, on the contrary I am really happy with how my life is processing atm, but my gf is right, I need to enjoy myself more. As she would say: "Getting a real emotion from you, which is not reflected from myself, is like rolling a ten ton stone down a mountain: at the beginning it takes hours to get it moving and is nearly impossible, but then at the bottom of the mountain run for your life !" And she likes running for her life .
So whats your take on a relationship like this ? Be as cold-neck-break-wounded-animal as possible ? What are the chances you see, what are the dangers ? Do you think the movie will have a happy ending or will the main actor die ? Do you think the big-boobed dumb super model will eat the strawberry or not ?
I am acronarcotingly agently looking forward to your thoughts !