nolla: Hmm... it's hard to tell without knowing any specifics... but if they are not going to ruin the rest of their lives with it or something, then it should be ok to try and keep discrete about advices. Maybe the question is, can you live with the fact that things do happen and you didn't do anything to stop it? And are the people you are talking about going to tolerate you telling them what to do? There are risks either way, I guess...Eckhart: I don't know, do I really know so much about other people? ^^
Nah, I just keep things for myself. If someone wishes my opinion, then he will get it, otherwise I won't force myself on someone usually. When I was younger I might have had a bit more problems with it.Before reading these^^^, I thought to myself, "I'm too drained to even talk about it anymore."nanook: it also makes a difference who you are. if you are your ego, you are not the wisdom. people want the wisdom but they feel your ego shoving it into their faces .... and that causes their ego to react, instead of causing their wisdom to take in yours. this problem can't be solved by handling, it requires a much deeper letting go.
After reading, I thought, "Law of attraction". Your words have just given me justification for a closure on this issue.
On both occasions, a close friend was and has been involved. Different people. Both occasions, they're dating total jerks, so darn clear to me, but oh not so much to them. I literally witness their minds being manipulated and it's so irksome and frustrating cos I see the whole thing as if I'm a hardcore fan of their soaps! I have very valid reasons to call them jerks. The truth kept chasing after me, filling me with worries and making me feel as if I have a duty to fulfill.
The first was 2 and a half years ago, I took a drastic action, long story short, we're almost good again - but only after 2 and a half years!
The most recent one, learned from the first, taking a non-violent approach which seems to mean my pulling off a 'don't know, don't care' stunt, don't know what will happen, as I said, don't know, don't care, though still always wondering if I'm making the right move.
You guys are right. I have to mind my own business, partly because I'm exhausted, but mostly because this time I intuit less favourable results relative to the energy expended.
My brain wants to rest now, my soul yearns for peace, I shall take heed and just be, just be.
I'm off to piggy wonderland! Goodnight!