I have been at a mental impasse the past week, trying to rationalize the potential relationships that I have come across.
There is one I have had feelings for for at least four years (A long time at my age). She is a beautiful INFJ that is both popular (Not in the S way, but everyone pays attention to her, especially for playful teasing) and busy. The former gnaws at my jealousness (I have learned to handle it to a degree, thankfully) and the latter tries my patience, but would be not a problem if not for the second person I have feelings for.
The second, in comparison, feels like I'm 'settling' (I cannot compare them to each other- I do not like bringing up looks, but it is a criteria I think about) but on the flipside I enjoy her childlike enthusiasm and feel more natural around her (Around the first I am gernerally more polite and less wacky).
In a sense, the first is perfect but had to grasp due to her elusivity, and the second is more available and suitable. However, feelings for the first interfere with feelings for the second, who I have started liking recently.
I do not even know how to approach the situation and thus am just waiting for an opportunity- but if I go with one, then feelings for the other, especially the first if I go with the second, will nag at me the whole way.
I overthink, people tell that to me all the time, and cannot help it. Unless the knot is straightened out in my mind I cannot help but pick at it.
Is there a way to deal with lingering feelings? I feel as if I'm asking for a magic cure.