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    Default NF and the after effects of sex

    Has anyone ever felt like they have given their all to someone? Been completely honest beyond the reach of words, with someone? Maybe even felt as if they had given their soul to someone else, through a sexual experience? If so, did you feel like your partner did the same? If not, how did it feel to be completely exposed, emptied of yourself, but not filled by the other?

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    Quote Originally Posted by EnflamedHeartofSand View Post
    Has anyone ever felt like they have given their all to someone? Been completely honest beyond the reach of words, with someone? Maybe even felt as if they had given their soul to someone else, through a sexual experience? If so, did you feel like your partner did the same? If not, how did it feel to be completely exposed, emptied of yourself, but not filled by the other?
    I only have that kind of sex after I think my soul is safe.
    What I mean is we would already have had to connect on other levels before I would open up like that.

    So the first part of your question is yes.
    The second part might have happened .. But I don't seem to recall ever feeling exposed after sex for giving more than the other person.. I am pretty good at reading my partner anyway.. I like to lead, but I tend to let them set the mood. If they aren't going spiritual about things, neither will I

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    I don't relate to this thread at all.
    In no likes experiment.

    that is all

    i dunno what else to say so

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    Quote Originally Posted by prplchknz View Post
    I don't relate to this thread at all.
    Honestly, neither do i.

    well i mean i have felt like that, but definitely not through a sexual experience, i mostly do that through conversation.
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    I'm protective of my inner-self because I'm not resilient and sex, to me, is too vulnerable an event to engage in with someone I don't have a strong relationship/commitment with.

    I don't really experience sex as a spiritual experience, though. It's more of the mutual satisfaction of a strong physical need.

    It's just one part, albeit an important one, of life and of a relationship. Not a huge deal, really.
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    huh?? I honestly have no idea what you mean...

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    Nope. Sex is sex. I became emotionally attached once and a while, but I got over it quickly.

    No one can have my soul. No one.

    How did was it to feel exposed and emptied of myself? Uhm. I have no idea.

    Even as a feeler.. I don't get other feelers sometimes. :/

    Edit: I agree with Stringstheory. The only way someone can look into my soul (but not have) is through conversation. Deep conversation. And it takes a very, very large amount of trust for me to open up to the point of sharing my inner most thoughts and feelings.

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    i don't get how such a thing could happen without it being mutual.

    are you saying you tried to connect and couldn't? did you feel used or something after? are you two in love and/or spirtitually connected otherwise?
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    Quote Originally Posted by Lady X View Post
    i don't get how such a thing could happen without it being mutual.

    are you saying you tried to connect and couldn't? did you feel used or something after? are you two in love and/or spirtitually connected otherwise?
    I can. One person cares, 'gives themselves up', and the other person.. Doesn't give a fuck. Simple as that.

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    Thanks for the feedback. I am speaking about a spiritual experience during sex, and I very much intend a sexual experience to be spiritual. It never is just sex. If it is, then what's the point really, might as well have it alone, without the complications of the other. I havn't had this experience yet, just wondering what it would be like, if it did happen that way, and I'm guessing that no one ever really has had it happen that way...I guess it was an unrealistic projection of what might happen.

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