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    Default ENFP struggles with her mediocrity / generalist-ness

    so we Enfps are pretty ok at a whole lotta stuff but not excellent (usually) at one particular thing . . . right??? but i think many of us desire to excel at one thing that we love . . . so that we can become very very good at it & maybe someday achieve some type of recognition & / or actually have some focus / direction for once . . . anyways . . . this is something that i have struggled with for many many years . . . and myers briggs & enneagram have helped me immensely . . . to see the light (so to speak) but also make me still go hhmmm because i see it this way:

    writing: i could never compete with INFPs

    art: i could never compete with ISFPs, INFPs

    comedy: i could never compete with ENTPs

    education / teaching: i could never compete with ENFJs

    Philosophy: i could never compete with INTPs

    counseling / therapy: i could never compete with INFJs

    and the list goes on & on & on & on

    OK, so i'm not hatin' on my type . . . i just don't know what i'm good at really . . . ever . . . and i guess sometimes i feel like why bother pursuing anything if i'm just going to be mediocre at it . . .

    so what are ENFPs naturally good at? naturally skilled at? Cuz bein' a goofy dork only gets ya' so far . . . .

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    ENFPs are the best in bullshitting, imo. it's a great skill and you should put it in use.

    ENFPs are life "generalists" not "specialists" that's gift too.



    i am naturaly good at math. that's the thing that i have crazy talent for, but i cant use it bc it bores me, i lack interest completely, so that's frustrating too. After that I am on the similar boat as you.

    ENFPs should do a job with juggling with many things... for example I have no particular interest but I'd like to do something like organisational development/change where I can make things happen, change some organisations.. it'd give enough diversity and above interests in something particular i am interested in change. dynamic.

    I really really like Jack Flak's task theory, that's what would bring every type to social satisfaction.
    but in short:

    Social functions/means of social satisfaction, with specific focus on actual activities of individuals (As opposed to end-results):

    INTP: Creation/provision of very unique logical ideas
    ENTP: Creation/provision of logical ideas which are likely to be employed
    INFP: Embodiment of moral "nobility"
    ENFP: Advisement on meaning and purpose

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    i think that attitude of yours is the only thing that can't compete
    natural talent can only get you so far
    the rest is hard work, persistence, confidence and keep trying even when you fail
    choose something you love and do it, if it's someone else's domain, you just have to work harder
    it's not simple or easy to accomplish, but you need to have faith in yourself at the very least

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    good thread title. i relate.

    Quote Originally Posted by Petra Pan View Post
    ENFPs are the best in bullshitting, imo. it's a great skill and you should put it in use.

    ENFPs are life "generalists" not "specialists" that's gift too.
    both very true.

    and to be less ridiculous about it for a moment, i think we are excellent communicators in that we cross boundaries that others can, or will, not. because of light interest, i can understand scientific jargon, but i also get annoyed at it and can easily translate it into regular-person speak. and that goes for many, many other areas of interest as well. we have a gift for overcoming boundaries.

    Quote Originally Posted by Jack Flak
    ENFP: Advisement on meaning and purpose
    and advertisement of meaning and purpose

    honestly, i think you can do anything you want, but the key is that you will not necessarily be good at it in the way those other types will be good at it. you may not have the emotional depth of an INFP writer, but you may better be able to be all-encompassing and reach out to more audiences. in art, you may not have the focus of IFPs, but again, you may be able to connect with a greater range of people. the gift of E is that you interact with the outside world more and thus have a better sense of what it's like and what it needs. i've debated often with my NTP family members about technical stuff, and they are brilliant yet they often forget the fuzzy, humanistic, illogical elements of things.

    so what i'm saying, is be good at what you want to be good at, and play your letters that don't correlate to your advantage. they say med schools nowadays are looking more for majors outside the traditional biology and chemistry disciplines because it helps doctors be more well-rounded. so be that well-rounded person. be the outgoing therapist. be the comedian who's attuned to how people feel inside. be the scientist who's able to see outside the academic bubble.

    of course, that all said, i have the most trouble figuring out what i would like to do because i'm not sure what i'd be happiest doing. i tend to like everything.

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    I feel ya and share your pain.

    I've decided to take on INFJs and see if I could excell as a psychologist.
    I've also decided to, atm, take advantage of the language skills I have and, although I aint an INFP, I've started writing (internet pages and blogs mostly). I think ENFPs could excell at that coz we actually do/think/concoct some batshit crazy stuff people wanna read about, we're not *bad* at writing, and it can be interactive with an audience if you manage to get one coz you're good enough (whereas INFPs tend to be really good at the whole fiction-fantasy-novel-thing), which appeals to our 'entertaining/performing' side.

    No clue if I'll be able to make it, concentrate hard enough to not be distracted by a new shiny and actually finish the project but hey...it's worth a shot.
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    I don't want to be good at bullshitting.
    I also don't want to be a "jack of all trades, master of none" or a generalist. That may be "enfp" but that's not "me" or what I want. I want to be good at something. Anything.
    George Bernard Shaw in cartoon form.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Vamp View Post
    I don't want to be good at bullshitting.
    I also don't want to be a "jack of all trades, master of none" or a generalist. That may be "enfp" but that's not "me" or what I want. I want to be good at something. Anything.
    I prefer Renissance woman to "jack of all trades, master of none".

    I actually like being well rounded. I feel like I am really good at most things I try. Is it common for ENFPs to feel like they aren't good at anything? Am I arrogant? Maybe I am and ENTP
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    Quote Originally Posted by Vamp View Post
    I don't want to be good at bullshitting.
    I also don't want to be a "jack of all trades, master of none" or a generalist. That may be "enfp" but that's not "me" or what I want. I want to be good at something. Anything.
    Bullshitting can be made into a way to make money.

    then in your free time you can build relationships and "advise other people on meaning and purpose"

    Maybe the purpose ENFPs serve most strongly isn't necessarily tied to career.

    Of course, you could always do what you love. I do feel the frustration of the OP, though...or at least I did until a few months ago when I said "fuck it."

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    Quote Originally Posted by angelhair45 View Post
    I prefer Renissance woman to "jack of all trades, master of none".

    I actually like being well rounded. I feel like I am really good at most things I try. Is it common for ENFPs to feel like they aren't good at anything? Am I arrogant? Maybe I am and ENTP
    I feel the same as you.

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    Quote Originally Posted by stalemate View Post
    I feel the same as you.


    Quote Originally Posted by Vamp View Post
    I don't want to be good at bullshitting.
    I also don't want to be a "jack of all trades, master of none" or a generalist. That may be "enfp" but that's not "me" or what I want. I want to be good at something. Anything.
    so choose something and get cracking. no one's stopping you but yourself.

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