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    Default Shallowness in xNFPs...

    How might "shallowness" come across to someone else? How is it defined?

    How/ when might an xNFP be considered shallow?

    Just wondering. Your thoughts, please?
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    Hmmm, some XNFPs are very easily distracted which could come off as a kind of fickle attitude towards everything that isn't a core interest to more focused types.

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    • we can hold several different beliefs at once, or at least see the value in perspectives even if they are diametrically opposed, and others can see it as contradictory and therefore not genuine or deep.

    • we - at least ENFPs - generally tend towards light and silly stuff on the surface. and we like FUN. somehow many very strange people believe that fun and serious are incompatible. however, there is no reason why i cannot ride the grocery cart at the store and trade stock and ponder the mystery of death all on the same day.

    • similarly, we - probably more ENFP again - tend to be happy and bouncy. many people, notably NFJs (no offense NFJs, it's just been a pattern in my life), can make the mistake of believing this means that we do not see anything bad in the world. we do. but being down about it doesn't help fix anything.

    • we just seem all over the place with our interests, and people assume this means we're not deeply interested in things.


    it's rather frustrating sometimes, actually. because i feel like it's always based off of assumptions. people don't see something, so they assume it's not there. i'm not saying they should assume it is, but simply keep the possibility open.

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    I changed my mind again. x_x
    Forget this post :o
    Last edited by Coco; 09-21-2010 at 09:05 PM. Reason: Asked other people what shallow meant :D

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    Quote Originally Posted by FalseHeartDothKnow View Post
    Hmmm, some XNFPs are very easily distracted which could come off as a kind of fickle attitude towards everything that isn't a core interest to more focused types.
    yeah this....i get accused of this by people that don't really know me that well because i have a whole lot of different interests.
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    Quote Originally Posted by skylights View Post
    • we can hold several different beliefs at once, or at least see the value in perspectives even if they are diametrically opposed, and others can see it as contradictory and therefore not genuine or deep.

    • we - at least ENFPs - generally tend towards light and silly stuff on the surface. and we like FUN. somehow many very strange people believe that fun and serious are incompatible. however, there is no reason why i cannot ride the grocery cart at the store and trade stock and ponder the mystery of death all on the same day.

    • similarly, we - probably more ENFP again - tend to be happy and bouncy. many people, notably NFJs (no offense NFJs, it's just been a pattern in my life), can make the mistake of believing this means that we do not see anything bad in the world. we do. but being down about it doesn't help fix anything.

    • we just seem all over the place with our interests, and people assume this means we're not deeply interested in things.


    it's rather frustrating sometimes, actually. because i feel like it's always based off of assumptions. people don't see something, so they assume it's not there. i'm not saying they should assume it is, but simply keep the possibility open.
    Good post. I'd second everything here and also add that:

    * I've been mistaken for a ditz many times because common sense escapes me. For some reason, people have mistaken this flightiness, this bird-brainedness as shallowness. Like, 'if she can't keep her attention on even the most basic things, how could she keep her attention on the bigger things.' I dunno. It's weird. Maybe other xNFPs have had this experience too?

    * For my ENFP self and a few of my INFP friends, beauty matters. I suppose it's because we tend towards the ideal, and beauty is ideal? Now, I don't think we understand the whole trendy clothes/shoes thing, but a lot of us are very into personal adornment. I could see how that would read as shallow.

    * I truly believe that some xNFPs are shallow. That it's less a type thing, more a trait thing. I don't buy that we all have some deeply spiritual core just because we're intuitive feelers. For instance, I love pop culture. I love to discover the patterns in it and I love to (for instance) try and predict what TV shows will be popular and why. But this fixation with what's trendy is probably shallow. I just take it in a more intuitive direction than people expect a pop culture lover to?

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    Quote Originally Posted by TheEmeraldCanopy View Post
    How might "shallowness" come across to someone else? How is it defined?

    How/ when might an xNFP be considered shallow?

    Just wondering. Your thoughts, please?
    i think enfps might seem shallow as all EPs, and infps might seem shallow more in a way of not caring for others, not really shallow more uncaring.

    whole my life i am encountering people who are very surprised when they find out that i am very talented for math, bc i laugh a lot and joke a lot and often dont look very smart

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    guys are just as shallow as anyoen else

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    Quote Originally Posted by angell_m View Post
    guys are just as shallow as anyoen else
    i dont see a guy from your avatar as shallow [and he was INFP]

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    you lied to yourself believing that

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