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    Default ENFJs and Figuring out a person

    An ENFJ friend told me that he figures out whatever a friend is really worth being kept as friends by testing them at the beginning of a relationship. For example: he once tested a person by giving them money for absolutely no reason. When the person took it without hesitation, he conclude that the person was greedy and not worth being friends with.

    I find that this is a very interesting and useful way to figure out someone. Have you nice people in the NF idyllic find yourself testing a potential friend by deliberately doing something and then observing their reaction? What qualities other than greed are you testing for? Any other ways to figure out a person other than giving out money for no reason?

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    I've never done anything like that.
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    I havnt ever done that either, how old is your friend 15? lol
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    What a strange conclusion? Sorry to say, that sounds idiotic. The way I figure people out is very holistic. I look at several instances to piece to them together in a bigger picture. Look at how they treat people generally. If they are an complete ass or fake to most people, then don't bother with them.

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    Your friend sounds kinda manipulative and a bit cynical.
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    Hmm Well what a silly thing to conclude..

    To me I would think "what a nice generous person". I believe people give gifts because they want to and it's rude to not accept.

    So your friend just lost a someone who might have admired him.. what a jerk.

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    That's ... unreasonable, illogical ... just plain dumb. Assumptions can be wrong even with a long list of evidence ... and this is just ... I would never do something like that. Trust is earned through the exchange of vulnerability, exchange of supportive-ness, conversations, time spend together getting to know each other. Trust takes time and distrust also takes time.

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    Sounds like that ENFJ just lost a table full of other ENFJs.
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    That was... a very educational and unanimous response. The ENFJ I have in mind is about 19.
    Last edited by Ozz; 09-20-2010 at 01:57 AM. Reason: uniform->unanimous

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    ROFL I found it funny! Its all good . Your friend must have some serious trust issues. Did something crazy happen to him?
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