i think another thing that is worth mentioning is that most of us know who to go to for these kinds of situations, who "get" us on this level and help us through it. I don't think the issue was demanding people bend to our method of processing frustration (at least i don't see it that way, i don't know where the OP stands in terms of that), but EXPLAINING that this is how we process things and how others ideally help us. i don't keep people around to play therapist for me...that's what my therapist is for but the nature of Ne is to accumulate many different viewpoints, so seeing what other people who I know understand my process and are able and willing to help have to say is just how I work.
maybe you could explain what exactly it is that you find unhealthy about this? i feel like there is an assumption in this thread that this kind of emotional expression and processing of frustration is done in hysterics, but I obviously can't say for sure. I mean, maybe the nature of demanding people communicate in the way I need is immature and that's one thing, but when I'm having a problem and i ask someone if i can talk to them about it? When they ask me if i need to talk about it? the people that know me well enough for me to want to talk to them expect and know this.