Actually, this was a very helpful answer Cadesco.
Originally Posted by cascadeco
My significant other is an ISTP, who interestingly enough, has all the top four functions that INFJ's do... just in a different order.
• ISTP - Ti > Se > Ni > Fe
• INFJ - Ni > Fe > Ti > Se
What you wrote here reminds me of what in our house we call his DLLD (Dreaded Logical Loop of Doom*).
When it comes to emotions, my ISTP has a tendency to get into the DLLD. In other words, he tries to apply his Ti to "understanding" and "defining" his feelings and this overloads his processor (because you can't understand emotions using traditional ISTP Ti tactics) and thus he gets stuck in the DLLD zone. I think of a robot who is trying to process some sort of logical problem that doesn't have any solution so it gets stuck and can only repeat over and over, "Processing... processing..." It tends to completely blow out his operating systems... so to speak.
Said in another way, sometimes I notice my ISTP is so concerned about finding the RIGHT answer that he never puts forward any answer. He gets stuck sorting out the permutations and since no clear answer is forthcoming he will not proceed.
So what I'm hearing from you is that because you can't sort out a scenario that you think matches my request, you can't give me an answer. Very interesting. Let me tell you what I tell my ISTP when he's going into the DLLD:
"Don't focus so much on being correct. Sometimes you can get overly focused on trying to find the right answer.... to the point that you don't act at all.
"Sometimes the only way to get to the right answer is to close your eyes, say your prayers, and jump. You might jump to a place with no foothold. This means you'll have to scramble a little bit to catch your balance, but at least you'll have a new place from which to re-evaluate things. And perhaps from this new vantage point, the answer will become apparent."
*This is a fabulous term I picked up on the SP forum.