But you grow out of such things, hopefully. I mean, I hope you don't expect people to explain their feelings to you all the time just so you know it's not about you. It's almost never about you. (At least, that's been my experience in my life -- it's almost never about me.) If you can assume that up front, maybe it can help you stop introjecting like a madwoman. That's not good for you, and often a pain in the butt for the other person (ask me how I know that, too).