Since I don't know your mother and was specifically talking about *my* mother (and only as a way of noting how "function-definitive" behavior is being attributed in this thread to both Fi and Fe, which is contradictory), there's no way I could make any sort of evaluation, attack, or defense of your mother.Secondly, although I know you're speaking of your own mother, but, as you said she's exactly the same way as mine, and then spoke negatively of your own mom, made me feel that you were speaking negatively of my mom as well. Although I see it as something that my mother needs to work on, I don't see her as pathetic for it.
I didn't comment on your mother personally, but now you are commenting on mine?Some random guesses for why you see your mother's actions as pathetic may be because her "avoidance" probably exacerbated a lot of negative situations in your household, while growing up, and when you may have needed a parental figure to step up, and/or stand up on your behalf, you felt let down.
Sure. I guess we could just do yet another theoretical analysis of how personality types "should act." I personally find continued theoretical discussion of cog functions to work from the assumption that MBTI is actually 100% true and thus it grows more and more divorced from real-life data.I would have liked to discuss it as a cognitive process, rather than behaviours, but we inevitably fall into behavioural analysis.
EDIT: Sorry, EW -- I had this post written awhile ago but finally hit "Post" and then saw your new one that showed up in the meanwhile. Didn't mean to distract from your comments here.