First of all, Peacebaby: I read your description a while back and didn’t respond right away because I was trying to see if I could figure out what I was missing on my own (especially after I read that you felt Fidelia was being dismissive, my reaction was *somewhat* similar to hers: I had trouble understanding how it was an Introverted Feeling issue over and above being an Introverted issue). Then I got ridiculously behind with the thread. But anyway, in regard to your description (about 100 posts back), I’m pretty close to having a response: which I will come back and post. I haven’t seen anyone else mention what’s been bouncing around in my head about it, I may have fresh insight.
But there’s some stuff I want to respond to now while I’m [almost] caught up (some of which may have already been addressed on this last page, which I haven't read, but doggone it I'm posting now before I wake up and find another 5 pages).
It was surprising actually, in reading this thread, that asking questions doesn’t make others feel that way. It’s good to know.
This:5.) Fe users generally feel emotions are not to be trusted or relied upon in the moment. Correct me on that if I've got it wrong.
Another aspect of it: I don’t like chipping away at my own credibility. I'm guessing this is because Js tend to remember events for longer- and how our reactions towards people are largely based on past experience of them, rather than present moment experience of them. If they cry wolf often enough (getting openly upset, only to retract it later), then I’m going to be inclined to pay less heed to when they get upset. Perhaps this has to do with being so introverted- but I really need people to listen and believe me when I tell them I am upset with them about something. I know the best way to go about this is to reserve such accusations or sentiments until I know they’re founded (so I get feedback from others about whether or not I’m being reasonable).