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    I drink your milkshake. Thessaly's Avatar
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    Quote Originally Posted by Usehername View Post
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    Quote Originally Posted by Thessaly View Post
    NTs can be very soothing.
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    Hmm that didn't sound so soothing to me LOL.. But its very interesting that you use the word soothing..

    Because someone who soothes me wins my heart..
    My INTP can be very soothing to me. I can get a little high-strung sometimes, but there's something about the energy around him (I know that sounds so new-agey) that's very calming and relaxing. He lets me talk through my problems, and then everything is OK. I could seriously spend an entire day lounging around being lazy with him. Typically I need to have something to do or see all the time.

    Man. I miss his hugs and kisses.

    Maybe it's not just soothing. I feel sometimes I can be very insecure, and it's hard for me to *really* trust someone because I've felt so let down and abandoned in the past. He's not around all the time, but there's some *thing* about how he interacts with me that gives me the impression that he will come back, or if I had a real problem that he would be there for me. I feel really safe with him and because of that I feel free to explore my more feminine facets (I'm an engineer by day).

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    Quote Originally Posted by Arclight View Post
    I know things about people before they start talking often.. But I just gently or sometimes blatantly probe. It's kind of like asking a writer where their ideas come from.. I can't really answer in a satisfying way. I just do "it".
    What if you intuitions are wrong sometimes? Are they?

    If only I could answer this. I don't know. Some people are just better at it than others. When I say "soothe" What I mean is .. This person somehow makes all the noise stop. My focus goes directly on them and what they are saying. All the other voices are gone. This person somehow gets directly past everything else and speaks to my core. They stimulate my thoughts and feelings and manage to marry both of them together so I can hear myself.
    People who make me hear myself are magic. They can teach me. Somehow I trust them. They are rare treasures.
    That's very interesting....it also illustrates an aspect of Fe for me, which is to gain clarity of feeling through interaction with others.

    I suppose this is an unusual thing then?


    Quote Originally Posted by Domino View Post
    Probably because they're on the same emotional modality-wave length as we are. You can't shield yourself with them around. NFPs can rip me a new one faster than just any other type because I have ZERO defense against them.
    Does this make you uncomfortable with them, or is it something refreshing on some level?
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    Quote Originally Posted by OrangeAppled View Post
    What if you intuitions are wrong sometimes? Are they?



    That's very interesting....it also illustrates an aspect of Fe for me, which is to gain clarity of feeling through interaction with others.

    I suppose this is an unusual thing then?




    Does this make you uncomfortable with them, or is it something refreshing on some level?
    What if you intuitions are wrong sometimes? Are they?
    Sometimes. But it depends on the intensity of my focus on someone and of course, my own state of emotional health. I can get jumpy and see things that aren't there when I feel under threat. Or at least that is what I am told anyway. I trust my insight so much, that even when it's wrong it feels right.
    I don't normally sense danger, so when I do.. maybe I am not as crazy as I think I am. Every now and then someone comes along that is a complete mystery to me. But most often I am accurate.

    I suppose this is an unusual thing then?
    Yes it's rare. It's almost mythical at times.

    That's an interesting point about the clarity through others. Not just anyone, but some people can see as well as I can or even better or just as well but from a different perspective(You ). I gain clarity through connection, it tends to be symbiotic and even synergistic. The problem is.. I can be so mistrustful.. That could be another reason why connection is rare. Maybe it would be more common if I trusted people more?

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    Quote Originally Posted by OrangeAppled View Post




    Does this make you uncomfortable with them, or is it something refreshing on some level?
    Well if I can I add, it seems like I am always walking on eggshells with INFPs that seem to be off the charts F and same to them with me (occasionally). I will ask them questions and they typically go, "You think too much and you're making my brain hurt" and I can very easily step on their values just by trying to figure out why they believe what they believe. I also get paranoid by the many other INFPs that are not like that because I feel like they are trying to figure me out (they can be way off but also very accurate).

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    Quote Originally Posted by Pitseleh View Post
    I also get paranoid by the many other INFPs that are not like that because I feel like they are trying to figure me out (they can be way off but also very accurate).
    If you don't mind me asking, which part worries you more? That INFPs are off base, or that INFPs might be very accurate? I'm highly capable of both.

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    Quote Originally Posted by OrangeAppled View Post
    Does this make you uncomfortable with them, or is it something refreshing on some level?
    It's both. I can't submarine or put on a protective facade on the emotional level which is really my primordial state of being. There's no removal. So if the INFP were having a bad day (I can take a bad attitude pretty well overall) and bit me, I'd get it right down to the bone. They have me fully exposed and can hurt me very badly, almost to a point where I don't think it's fair to them. No one on earth can hurt me as badly as my sister. Not just because we're twins and we're close, but because she's got an in-road on me with the Fi.

    In my experience, Fi users don't get destroyed like Fe users. I often think the best models are Fi based because the camera really doesn't exist. I look at Fi as being levels of tensile strength above Fe. If my sister really wants to dismantle me, she can. She just chooses not to. The very nature of Fi is so removed from it's surroundings it's got an immediate leg up on me.

    Fortunately most INFPs I've met are not bad mean people. I've run afoul of malignant Fi before and it set off mortal combat, but on its terms. I was never fully in control. Fi users are dangerous that way. They set the pace whether they think they do or not.

    It's both good and bad. I would have no fear of speaking personally to an INFP. I believe an interested or invested INFP would fall on his/her sword before letting me be hurt.

    All this to say that my very first monster crush behind John Taylor was Johnny Depp, right? *laughs*
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    Quote Originally Posted by Pitseleh View Post
    Well if I can I add, it seems like I am always walking on eggshells with INFPs that seem to be off the charts F and same to them with me (occasionally). I will ask them questions and they typically go, "You think too much and you're making my brain hurt" and I can very easily step on their values just by trying to figure out why they believe what they believe. I also get paranoid by the many other INFPs that are not like that because I feel like they are trying to figure me out (they can be way off but also very accurate).
    Hm, I don't know if it's possible to think too much . The only way someone could make my brain hurt is if they don't make any sense & it annoys me (then I guess I get all NT-ish pedantic on them ).

    INFPs can be sensitive to having questions asked about values if it seems to challenge them rather than just stem from innocent curiosity. I say "seems", because it's the INFP's own subjective guage which can be hypersensitive. I think this is where you'll see our wall go up.

    Quote Originally Posted by Domino View Post
    It's both. I can't submarine or put on a protective facade on the emotional level which is really my primordial state of being. There's no removal. So if the INFP were having a bad day (I can take a bad attitude pretty well overall) and bit me, I'd get it right down to the bone. They have me fully exposed and can hurt me very badly, almost to a point where I don't think it's fair to them. No one on earth can hurt me as badly as my sister. Not just because we're twins and we're close, but because she's got an in-road on me with the Fi.

    In my experience, Fi users don't get destroyed like Fe users. I often think the best models are Fi based because the camera really doesn't exist. I look at Fi as being levels of tensile strength above Fe. If my sister really wants to dismantle me, she can. She just chooses not to. The very nature of Fi is so removed from it's surroundings it's got an immediate leg up on me.

    Fortunately most INFPs I've met are not bad mean people. I've run afoul of malignant Fi before and it set off mortal combat, but on its terms. I was never fully in control. Fi users are dangerous that way. They set the pace whether they think they do or not.

    It's both good and bad. I would have no fear of speaking personally to an INFP. I believe an interested or invested INFP would fall on his/her sword before letting me be hurt.

    All this to say that my very first monster crush behind John Taylor was Johnny Depp, right? *laughs*
    I can't argue with any of that. I think Fi can detach & "bite" in a way people don't expect.

    I don't exactly feel I have any upper hand in the relationships with the ENFJs I know though; part of it is the uneven exchange of personal info/feelings. In that sense, I always feel more vulnerable.
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    Quote Originally Posted by OrangeAppled View Post
    part of it is the uneven exchange of personal info/feelings. In that sense, I always feel more vulnerable.
    Trying to pull an honest emotional response from my ENFJ male friend is like wrestling a mooing kicking bull to the ground. I can be pretty bad about self-revelation (without knowing it), but the guys in general?? MAN, they put up a fight.
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