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    I drink your milkshake. Thessaly's Avatar
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    Oh god...this thread cannot turn into an ENFJ INFP love fest now. I know make-up sex only feels natural, but I'm a scorned woman and this is my thread dammit.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Thessaly View Post
    ENFJ #2:

    We dated very briefly a couple years back to which he disappeared on me after a few great dates (he told me later that he "does that sometimes" ???). Anyways, I run into him at a bar to which he goes NUTS on me. Makes all sorts of extravagant plans to take me out and compliments me like he's been in prison and hasn't seen a woman in 10 years. Escorts me home and we kiss and then I NEVER HEAR FROM HIM AGAIN. I gave him the second chance because I figured time may have changed him a little.

    It's just so psychotic. I mean to go from OMG YOU'RE AMAZING BLAH BLAH BLAH to COMPLETE SILENCE AND UNAVAILABILITY is weird. It almost doesn't register it's so bizarre. Like I don't even really acknowledge it's taken place because it's so f-ing weird.
    There was a poster here with an male ENFJ cousin that got to witness this from the ENFJ male perspective. He really was an emotional roller coaster, and had about 6 (or so) women running through is life. He would come home in soul shattering love with one woman, and then the next day be over it and begin falling in love with a new woman. Then he'd tire of her, and move on or go back and fall helplessly in love with woman #1 all over again.

    The thing was, in his mind he really was in love with all these women in the moment. Perhaps it's a combination of ENFJ emotional intensity (and emotions by nature ebb and flow) + the male animal instinct to mate with as many different women as possible + a dose of insecurity to make it all highly combustable. I haven't noticed this tendency in the ENFJ women.

    Plus, there are plenty of ENFJ males that don't do this and would love nothing more than to be the white knight to a special lady. You should go find yourself one of those.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Thessaly View Post
    JoSunshine we've covered a lot of ground since that first post, but...thanks?
    Indeed...and I read every one of them, which is how I know no one said what I wrote. Just sharing an additional viewpoint. I thought the point about the "sure thing" could have been particularly valuable in understanding what other healthy ENFJ's (or any type really) might be feeling especially considering that it has been my particular experience with my INFP that he tends to be cautious and reserved to the point that I have wondered in the past if he felt anything at all towards me, let alone that he was "sure" about me. It was clear to him that he did, but not so clear to me. Fi vs Fe, I'm sure.

    Quote Originally Posted by TheEmeraldCanopy View Post
    How's that going, JoSunshine? (if you don't mind me asking)
    You know Emerald, it is a relatively new relationship (only about 4 months). We have had our challenges for sure. The way I see things, our "insides" are the same, but our way of approaching things are almost opposite. I run at things head on and he slowly backs into things. It can be difficult trying to understand why the other person is reacting to the same situation in an opposite manner...but our end goals tend to be the same.


    Luckily, we adore each other! We have the most amazing conversations (really deep) and have so much fun together! It is a giggle-fest when we are with each other So we are both committed to understanding each other better and and talking things through. Only time will tell if it will work, but I certainly hope so. I feel like our connection is special, and very different from anything I've experience before.

    Quote Originally Posted by Thessaly View Post
    Oh god...this thread cannot turn into an ENFJ INFP love fest now.
    I love you UDog!
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    Quote Originally Posted by Udog View Post
    Plus, there are plenty of ENFJ males that don't do this and would love nothing more than to be the white knight to a special lady. You should go find yourself one of those.
    No.
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    Quote Originally Posted by JoSunshine View Post
    Indeed...and I read every one of them, which is how I know no one said what I wrote. Just sharing an additional viewpoint. I thought the point about the "sure thing" could have been particularly valuable in understanding what other healthy ENFJ's (or any type really) might be feeling especially considering that it has been my particular experience with my INFP that he tends to be cautious and reserved to the point that I have wondered in the past if he felt anything at all towards me, let alone that he was "sure" about me. It was clear to him that he did, but not so clear to me. Fi vs Fe, I'm sure.
    Ahh...I think I see what you were getting at now. Yeah, Fi vs. Fe for sure.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Thessaly View Post
    Oh god...this thread cannot turn into an ENFJ INFP love fest now. I know make-up sex only feels natural, but I'm a scorned woman and this is my thread dammit.
    Sorry lady I was just trying to persuade you to not give up on ENFJs . It can work!!! xoxoxo
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    Quote Originally Posted by JoSunshine View Post
    I love you UDog!


    Quote Originally Posted by Thessaly View Post
    No.
    That was sort of my point. Given a choice between the white knight ENFJ and the push-pull ENFJ, you are going to pick the push-pull ENFJ. If the ENFJ ceased with the push-pull, how long do you think you'd remain interested?

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    Not very long, but I don't commit to someone because they're endlessly interesting. I commit to them because I get something real out of it.

    I'm taking a break from Fs now I think. I would love to score another INTJ.
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    lol stop making me smile Sparrow. I'm trying to turn my back on your warmth exuding type
    With dreamers, pure and simple, the imagination remains a vaguely sketched inner affair. It is not embodied in any aesthetic or practical invention. Reverie is the equivalent of weak desires. Dreamers are the aboulics of the creative imagination.

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