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    I drink your milkshake. Thessaly's Avatar
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    And I'm sorry if I've been a self righteous brat, but Jesus Christ.
    With dreamers, pure and simple, the imagination remains a vaguely sketched inner affair. It is not embodied in any aesthetic or practical invention. Reverie is the equivalent of weak desires. Dreamers are the aboulics of the creative imagination.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Blown Ghost View Post
    I used to think so, but not as much anymore. In the situation described, when I am being sensitive towards the person's emotional condition they tended to file it under their "evidence he has special feelings about me". Not every time, but enough that I began to think the problem is ultimately that they are entering into our closer interactions looking to confirm whatever they want to believe. Now I tend to be so blunt that some people have called me cruel, however, I suffer in having to do such a thing to someone I like (but not like-like!) so that they suffer shortly but ultimately less.

    It's kind of sad, actually. I wish it weren't the case, but it just seems a lot of people only take sensibility and sensitivity for granted to the point of abuse. I know that ultimately, whether the other person wants to accept it or not, if they aren't bleeding then they're gonna be fine, and that has helped me to use a little healthy harshness.
    I love this post so damn hard.
    One of the biggest reasons that I've become more picky about who I expend effort on is because they tend to be male and they tend to chalk me up as potential when I encourage them.
    More times than not I've heard a phrase or two that set off the alarm bells and my immediate reaction is "" and bluntly abandon ship. I was sickened by how many times I'd have to shoot people down.. and then the same people over and over.. beating it into their skulls that I was not the thing they were looking for.
    Not to say this pertains to the rest of the thread, but sheesh there are some people who really do want the abuse and to be told there's not a snowball's chance in the deepest level of hell.
    Also, not to imply I'm super awesome. I'm only awesome when I care enough, otherwise I'm a fire-breathing demon-spawn. :hisses:
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    Quote Originally Posted by Thessaly View Post
    ENFJ #2:

    We dated very briefly a couple years back to which he disappeared on me after a few great dates (he told me later that he "does that sometimes" ???). Anyways, I run into him at a bar to which he goes NUTS on me. Makes all sorts of extravagant plans to take me out and compliments me like he's been in prison and hasn't seen a woman in 10 years. Escorts me home and we kiss and then I NEVER HEAR FROM HIM AGAIN. I gave him the second chance because I figured time may have changed him a little.

    It's just so psychotic. I mean to go from OMG YOU'RE AMAZING BLAH BLAH BLAH to COMPLETE SILENCE AND UNAVAILABILITY is weird. It almost doesn't register it's so bizarre. Like I don't even really acknowledge it's taken place because it's so f-ing weird.
    Just discovered that for myself recently. I met an ENFJ, he came on like a house fire, but with his emotions oscilating wildly the entire time. Blowing hot and cold, acting like a starving man, then acting like he could take or leave anything you offered him. From one NF to another, I can understand the ebb and flow of emotions, but seriously.

    Perhaps the problem is that you keep picking up very off-balance and unhealthy ENFJs. They seem to seek people out when they're that way, which makes the situation confusing. I thought it was about them needing connectivity, but really, it looks more like bolstering a failing ego.

    And everyone here knows that I have nothing but love for ENFJ's, so please don't take this as a blanket judgment.

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    Has anyone had any luck with an enfj??? Lol
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    Quote Originally Posted by Sparrow View Post
    Has anyone had any luck with an enfj??? Lol
    LOL.

    Weeeelllll, I have a friend who's an ENFJ, and he's married to his high school sweetheart, an INFP. And they're very happy.

    Also, I think my ENFJ sister is the Awesomest thing that ever tried to Awesome. But, I've been accused of bias.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Sparrow View Post
    Has anyone had any luck with an enfj??? Lol
    Ummm well everyone of my partners felt lucky at some point .. But things go to hell..

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    Quote Originally Posted by Thessaly View Post
    I'm not trying to punish ENFJs everywhere or something I just think this is a problem of yours you need to address. If you happen to inspire feelings within another person and don't want to be the object of their affection stop acting in that manner or speak with that person to let them know there was a miscommunication. Don't rinse, repeat.
    People! People! What the hell is going on here? I will have you know that I am world renowned for my compassionate directness - INFP validiated and confirmed...perhaps you've heard of me.

    Seriously, I am known amongst my friends (some of them males who I have put the romatic kibosh on) as being direct when it comes to most things - especially when it comes to unreciprocated romatic feelings. The way I see things, I don't want to hurt anyones feelings and the best way to do that is to directly, yet kindly let people know when I am not interested. Afterall, letting them pine and carry false hope just to be disappointed is way more hurtful that letting them know upfront that it aint gonna happen...ever. Most of my friends (of all types) view it as some sort of super power that I can be so direct with people and not have them hate my guts. It was a skill I had to develop though, becuase it sure wasn't easy in the beginning.

    Quote Originally Posted by Thessaly View Post
    you ARE going to back off unless you think we're a sure thing.
    Damn skippy if by this you mean I want to be in a relationship with someone who is sure that he wants to be in a relationship with me. I don't see this as a bad thing. I think this attitude comes from a sense of worthiness and feeling like I deserve someone who I am "sure" wants to be with me and vice-versa. That seems pretty fundimental to me.

    P.S. My SO is an INFP
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    JoSunshine we've covered a lot of ground since that first post, but...thanks?
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    The best relationship that I've ever been in was with an infp xoxo I still love that boy :*)
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    Quote Originally Posted by JoSunshine View Post

    P.S. My SO is an INFP
    How's that going, JoSunshine? (if you don't mind me asking)
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