Except for my last relationship, I have had somewhat of a trend dating guys who were, more, or less, entirely lacking in depth.
I have always been, what one would call, a "deep" person. I think deeply, and I feel deeply, and that's just the way I operate. Sensitive, and thorough, yes, I am both these things...
Back to the topic at hand, the sad revelation I've had, which is... For some strange reason I have comfortably found myself in romantic relationships with men who were neither emotionally, nor mentally as deep as I. Our relationship would consist of eating, sleeping, and sexually pleasing each other. A coexistence sans any mental stimulation.
wow. reminds me of my ENFP best friend. i think she really likes just being able to get her ideas out without being interrupted. because when we hang out, it's constant debate
but yeah, she's questing for a "deep" man. i guess they're hard to find...
although i consider myself one... where are all these girls that are looking for guys like me??
I guess you should keep doing it, because we don't do that (at least I don't know any who do).
I mostly do. I've tried small talking but it never works, so I find leaping in the deep end is far better than dragging things out and realizing you're stuck in the kiddie pool too late. Plus: the times when it works, the shift from to is worth the risk!
"The subject chooses to sit in shadow and search for wisdom by reflecting upon his trial. The problem is not that he is cold and wet, but that cold and wet seems problematic, so he embraces those hardships in order to best them."
CaptainChick, could you give me some examples of how you'd like your guy to be? Feel free to be as idealistic as you want to. What are you really looking for? What kinds of thoughts and actions make a guy deep, both intellectually and emotionally?
And what happens when you're with someone who's not deep? Do you hide your own depth, or do you share it, only to be disappointed by the lack of reciprocation and excitement?
"When a resolute young fellow steps up the great bully, the world, and takes him boldly by the beard, he is often surprised to find that it comes off in his hand, and that it was only tied on to scare away the timid adventurers." - Ralph Waldo Emerson