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    Default ENFPs- hiding part of yourself.

    Lots a talk lately on how we ENFPs feel the need to hide part of ourselves as a defense mechanism... I just wanted to say, you don't HAVE to. You can stop hiding yourself and start showing it to people. It really is liberating once you just say fuck it, and start being you even if people aren't sure how to take it.

    Maybe if we ENFPs stopped hiding ourselves so much people would get more "used" to us. I guess what I'm saying right now, it seems like it's a vicious cycle for many and maybe we should attempt to stop the cycle by being authentic regardless of what others think or say....

    or am I just being a super idealist here?
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    That's what I do.
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    You are quite idealist, but why not?
    Probably a lot easier said than done.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Deja Vu View Post
    That's what I do.
    I do too, but it took me a while to become this way. I learned to hide "me" over time, and I think it's shit! We shouldn't have to adapt in that way...

    I'd love it if other ENFPs could feel more free to be themselves...
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    I'm doing it more and more ...

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    I'm not sure I know what you are referring to. Could you give me a concrete example?

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    I learnt to hide 'me' as a schoolboy, except with a very small group of friends. Too much ridicule comes from small children.

    I was always interested in heaps more things than the other boys, more than just football and action men and comics. I liked photography, trains, planes, coins, stamps, heraldry, history, foreign languages, looking for things on the beach, travelling around (when I could talk my mum into driving me), radios, electronics, clocks, astronomy, dinosaurs, tennis, biking. I spent hours at the library devouring books (children's and adults). I spent hours practicing my tennis against a wall. Everything I was interested in, I wanted to max out my knowledge and skill. I could never seem to find friends who were interested in doing anything to the same level of depth as me -- it was very frustrating.

    I wanted to do and talk about all kinds of things with the other kids but no-one else was interested. I learnt to just talk about and do the limited range things that most of them talked about but I felt lonely -- I longed for other kids to be on my wavelength.

    I think I would have been happier if I had been very introverted or had Asperger's Syndrome (and therefore unaware) but it was painful wanting to have friends that understood me but finding that nobody really shared my enthusiasm for things.

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    I don't hide most of the important things, I don't think. A few I do, because I don't feel the need to let anyone know, but most of the time, I don't really hide things, although I don't go around showcasing them either, like my sexuality for example. Sure, I'm gay, but I don't feel the need to mention it or show it; unless asked, or the topic comes up, I don't really care. Which is why it confuses me when some people go, "Why didn't you tell me you were gay, omg?" because it's like... "I figured you wouldn't care? Why didn't YOU tell me you were straight? XD" Of course, when I'm super-excited about something (P O K E M O N Z !) I must let everyone know and to hell with it, lolo.

    But yeah, I'm not as secretive as perhaps other ENFPs are, or at least I don't hide as much, idk.
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    As an ENFP 4w5 I tend to hide a lot of myself, my real self, i.e. the good/bad/crazy/deep self inside, buried deep beneath the surface.

    I think I know why.

    There are some who allow me to be me, but most people implicitly force me to silence my spirit.

    tis sad, tis true, tis life.
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    'Cause you can't handle me...

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    i used to do that but then... i stopped. fuck whoever wants to keep your spirit down- they are just bitter because they have no spirit!
    I will buy you a drink and I'll tell you what I think, and tomorrow, in the morning, I won't be sorry that I didn't sleep.


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