Hmmmm ... been reading through some threads about relationships and sexiness and attraction ...
I've often felt I'm in the 'nice guy' friend zone with women I've liked, except for women who've had their shit together less than I have mine.
The result -- the women I like see me as a cute cuddly puppy, whereas the women who are attracted to me are usually more screwed up than me.
It's not very PC but it seems that a lot of women are attracted to men who are stronger or more mature or more stable than they are -- they are looking for strength and stability in a man, and that's attractive.
The result is that the man is more likely to be end up in the dominant role in the relationship, even if he doesn't feel comfortable with that role if he is an NFP type. And it's a big responsibility.
It's often said (non-PC but seems to be true) that women feel more attracted to a man who takes the lead. She can choose not to follow but she needs there to be a lead that allows her that choice. Again, not a position that an NFP would necessarily feel comfortable in.
This is probably not new to a lot of you guys but it has suddenly struck me -- as there seems to be a biological/evolutionary need in a woman for a stronger, more together man, that means that an awful lot of men are going to be in the position of mainly being attractive only to women who are less together than they are.
Don't know where this is going ... over to you guys now!