I rarely tell anyone to put their act together. Unless it's on the highway. Maybe I have a bad case of road rage or it's an ugly shadow Te, but quite often I'm thinking to myself that people need to get their act together, in so many words. Maybe this is normal.. Lately, I've been extra freaked by driving.
I'm more hypocritical in a Fi-Fe sense.. I like to consider myself cooperative, but I struggle between wanting to cooperate with conventional standards and following my own.
edit: Of course, if something's bad, I'm going to fight about it. I guess if you call that "telling people to put their act together", then yes, I do. I don't consider myself a hypocrite for that though.
I just don't generally get into a supervisory mode and start telling people to get their act together or to suck it up. Most of the time, I'd probably tell the person who's telling someone else to suck it up that they need to chill out and look at how someone is suffering. Not a big fan of tough love.