The thread on cheating here recently got me thinking, and if you're all not exhausted by the topic, here goes: I'm wondering what all of you think of a situation in which I fell deeply in love. The man and I met before he began dating someone new (I think he's and INFP or INFJ, but not extremely I). It was very much an emphathetic NF-NF bond and extremely wonderful and compelling. I was in a relationship at the time, but one that was unhappy and failing. When we realized the attraction between the two of us, he had been dating someone for about five months.
We had an intense and heart-felt connection and continued to tell each other with unmistakable body language (and a couple of definite verbal affirmations) that we wanted each other. In the meantime, he was still dating his girlfriend (long distance), though he never talked about her with me in any way that would indicate he was serious about her or even in a committed relationship. It's as if she only marginally existed. After a few more months (and an intense period), our relationship only got better. Our bond was even stronger than it had been and we still had the same chemistry, wonderful discussions, and desire for one another (that unmistakable body language).
I've thought that he was conflicted about me. If she had evesdropping on us, she would have no doubt that he wasn't being faithful. Though we weren't lovers, we had an unmistakable emotional amd mental bond. I feel if your heart is somewhere else or if you have another strong connection that's obviously romantic, it's a sign that there are problems in that primary relationship and it's headed for heartache.
Sorry for the lengthy post!