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    Default ENFP and casual sex

    I've never had a one night stand or a fling, and that's despite having the impulsive flirtyness of the ENFP and the usual desires of a red-blooded male. I want my sexual relationships to be emotionally meaningful, which means that while other people are merrily hooking up when they feel like it, I just couldn't do that.

    Anyone else feel the same way?

    It's the same with every other aspect of my life -- if it's not emotionally meaningful to me in some way, then I'm not interested.

    Maybe that's normal for most people, not just an ENFP thing???

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    I'm the same way, tortoise. +1

    It really bugs me that over the years people have assumed that I'll sleep with anyone at the drop of a hat. Probably, they reach this erroneous conclusion based on my openness and my ability to interact with all manner of people. And, my willingness to take risks. But what they don't get is that my willingness to take risks is usually limited to intellectual risks. I'll consider almost any idea... but this is far different than acting upon my fanciful thoughts.

    I also choose to live a purposeful life. (This is very ENFP of me, btw.) My actions need to having meaning; and I need to see how they fit into my greater plans. This propensity of mine to assign meaning to everything and understand why I'm doing what I'm doing also extends to my sex life. Thus, sex has to have meaning for me. I can't imagine engaging in meaningless flings or one night stands.

    I think of lovemaking as a beautiful way to convey how much I love my partner. Now within those confines, I love to be creative and playful... even adventurous. Regardless, I'm still symbolically communicating my amorous feelings to my beloved.
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    I'm a guy. I tried. And I failed. Yes, relationship is the key to sex.

    But please, don't call it casual sex. It sounds so boring, like missionaries.

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    I'm a virgin.

    Casual Sex is for the weak who can't control their hormones. and those without integrity. or decent morals. and don't try to justify it.
    Is it that by its indefiniteness it shadows forth the heartless voids and immensities of the universe, and thus stabs us from behind with the thought of annihilation, when beholding the white depths of the milky way?

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    I'm virgin.

    But, still I think "casual sex" is very trashy and just plain stupid. You shouldn't have sex with someone if you don't have any real feelings for them. Where is that going to get you? It's just going to upset you.

    I, too, believe that things like sex should have more meaning than just "Hi, I'm drunk, wanna get in my pants?" There should be real actual feelings of love invovled. I probably sound like a Sunday school teacher, but that's how I view it.

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    Quote Originally Posted by musicnerd93 View Post
    I'm virgin.

    But, still I think "casual sex" is very trashy and just plain stupid. You shouldn't have sex with someone if you don't have any real feelings for them. Where is that going to get you? It's just going to upset you.

    I, too, believe that things like sex should have more meaning than just "Hi, I'm drunk, wanna get in my pants?" There should be real actual feelings of love invovled. I probably sound like a Sunday school teacher, but that's how I view it.
    I'm a virgin, too. I get what you're saying...and I AGREE!
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    Quote Originally Posted by Funkadelic View Post
    I'm a virgin.

    Casual Sex is for the weak who can't control their hormones. and those without integrity. or decent morals. and don't try to justify it.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Funkadelic View Post
    I'm a virgin.

    Casual Sex is for the weak who can't control their hormones. and those without integrity. or decent morals. and don't try to justify it.
    WOW.

    Way to judge something you clearly don't understand.
    Asshole puritan Maybe you shouldn't go around condemning people who don't live as your highness, your pureness sees fit. But knowing people like you personally it isn't likely. People like you make it hard to live. Keep your judgments. You'll stay ignorant and you'll be too ignorant to care.
    George Bernard Shaw in cartoon form.

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    Love. Sex.
    They can be exclusive and inclusive of one another.

    I like both. Sometimes not at the same time.

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    By the way, I'm not condemning or judging people who are OK with casual sex. Just for me, there has to be a real emotional connection, or it's not worth it.

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