I would like advice and a better understanding of a trait that I believe might be NF (not just ENFJ) that has now become a pattern.
I have had 3 trusted friends this year tell me that I missed a trait/weakness/characteristic about someone who I wanted to be better friends with. I don't know if this is the empathy in us NFs, the lack of sensing, the thinking function or what, or ENFJ strength in seeing potential? I was also brainstorming that I see things in relation, not in isolation?
Whatever the reason I realize this pattern and would appreciate input, methods of overcoming, advice, similar experiences, and general witty banter.
1.) Had someone who I wanted to be closer friends with and a good friend told me I missed this person's obvious low self esteem
2.) Missed that an ex-friend was commented to be completely someone who doesn't put effort into things
3.) This past Saturday a good friend pulled me aside and said I was trying to become friends with a girl who was not good/trashy and how could I not see it