Amargith... I don't fully understand what you are talking about here. I'm hoping this has to do with the fact I got some weird cold/scratchy throat/really tired sickness...and I can tell my brain isn't working as efficiently haha as it normally might. I'll give it a few more reads as I get better here...and really appreciate you taking the time.
I wanted to clarify though... my response wasn't directed towards the relationship you've chosen for yourself so much as I wanted to express what I believe to be the *standard* response to being controlled (I become so anxious just with the thought of it...) No ENFP is going to fit the descriptions perfectly... but since the original question was something like "are there ever times when an ENFP wishes to be controlled?"...and you said "yes" <-my response was more to say 'I think you're unique in that.' Do ENFPs need control?...probably. Will most ENFPs remain wild horses that you can't reign in for the rest of their lives? Will most ENFPs respond violently to attempts at controlling them? I think the answer there is 'Yes.'
Rarely do I ever encounter an ENFP description that doesn't say "resists being controlled" or "does not like to be controlled and does not like controlling others."
You are just a very unique and beautiful spirit Amar