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    Quote Originally Posted by chubber View Post
    I get this impression that @Amargith is a ninja. My understanding of ninjas is that they blend in and then suddenly all hell breaks loose.
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    How do enfps deal with jerks/bullies/ass holes?

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    @Amargith

    What is your significant other's enneagram?

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    Quote Originally Posted by Riva View Post
    How do enfps deal with jerks/bullies/ass holes?
    Depends on one very important thing: do I understand where the bullying behaviour is coming from?

    If not, then it's harder to be evenhanded about it. Depending on their power position, I'll either use an avoidance tactic, or confront them head on, or just ignore them if they aint worth my time. If they are bullying someone else, I'm more likely to launch a counterstrike. Due to my past experiences, I have a very low tolerance threshold for such behaviour and it is the type of behaviour most likely to incur my wrath, lack of patience and cause me a lot of frustration, though I am working on having more patience with it, as I know it typically stems from fear and insecurity within the person. It's not like they're evil. If at all possible, I'll try to provoke them into revealing what is triggering it, so I can go to stage 2:

    If I do know what causes it, I'll try to aim a precise surgical strike at those causes in order to not just interrupt the behaviour now, but give it a chance to actually vanish completely in the future. That's not always possible, though, and it depends on how deeply rooted the cause is. If someone is completely unaware and running away from themselves, they have the longest road ahead still, and they will be unlikely to be receptive to you trying to draw their attention to it. If you can get them alone though - you have a shot, provided you handle it gently and you have enough of an intimate bond with them established. From there, it's a matter of which stage they're in.

    As you can tell, it is also the kind of behaviour that I have NO QUALMS manipulating the shit out of as it harms others. Since they're launching an open attack on others, all bets are off, and I *will* use whatever I need to to take it out. Not the person, the behaviour. It's a fucking cancer on our society.

    Quote Originally Posted by chubber View Post
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    What is your significant other's enneagram?
    I believe him to be a 3w4 sp-sx (358)

    ..do I wanna know why you ask?
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    Quote Originally Posted by Amargith View Post
    I believe him to be a 3w4 sp-sx (358)

    ..do I wanna know why you ask?
    Trying to understand your dynamic situation. So far I am still reading that The INTJ-ENFP Fetishists Thread and ENFP+INTJ=Disasterous Combo o' love.

    I'm 4w5 sp, so far I also get 9w1. I wonder what kind of ENFP would then fit me. If that makes even any sense.

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    Quote Originally Posted by chubber View Post
    Trying to understand your dynamic situation. So far I am still reading that The INTJ-ENFP Fetishists Thread and ENFP+INTJ=Disasterous Combo o' love.

    I'm 4w5 sp, so far I also get 9w1. I wonder what kind of ENFP would then fit me. If that makes even any sense.
    Lol..ohhh, good luck with those threads. Keep in mind that hunting for a specific category of enfp is not likely to...be a good tactic. It helps to understand them *after* you caught them though

    But in the spirit of playing along: may I suggest one of them rare ENFP 8s, or the slightly more common ENFP 7? They'll lift your moods, bring life into yours and keep you swaddled with crazy kooky ideas, while dragging you on crazy adventures
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    Quote Originally Posted by Riva View Post
    How do enfps deal with jerks/bullies/ass holes?
    Depends on a lot. Usually I ignore them. Sometimes I step in and defend the person being bullied.

    I like to keep peace, so I usually wait around for the object of the bullying to diffuse the situation somehow or for the conflict to otherwise cease. I might also try to take control of the conversation, steer it in another direction or ask the person being bullied to like go do something with me or engage them on conversation.

    But I have definitely been known to throw out a "hey this person was just trying to XYZ, man. Chill out" or something.
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    Hey ENFPs, it seems to me that rates of depression and anxiety are so high - at least in the area I live in - is this a phenomenon of the modern world or do you think it's always been the case?
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    Quote Originally Posted by Honor View Post
    Hey ENFPs, it seems to me that rates of depression and anxiety are so high - at least in the area I live in - is this a phenomenon of the modern world or do you think it's always been the case?
    Pretty sure it's always been part of life. It used to be that spirituality was used to ward off depression - and still does nowadays, whereas now we also have the benefit of psychology and shrinks. And hopefully, in the future, as psychology is still a relatively new science and there is still so much we do not understand about the human brain, our ability to prevent this and numerous other psychological conditions will only improve.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Amargith View Post
    Lol..ohhh, good luck with those threads. Keep in mind that hunting for a specific category of enfp is not likely to...be a good tactic. It helps to understand them *after* you caught them though

    But in the spirit of playing along: may I suggest one of them rare ENFP 8s, or the slightly more common ENFP 7? They'll lift your moods, bring life into yours and keep you swaddled with crazy kooky ideas, while dragging you on crazy adventures
    I shall summon @LadyJaye. She happens to be ENFP 7.

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