without thought as to how a Fe user would tend to follow me, and not assert what they want to talk about, i don't feel any guilt. in threads with mostly FPs i just blab about whatever and change the subject as much as i want, because i know if they want to talk about something, they'll just talk about it. or they'll tell everyone they want to talk about it.
i've learned to be more careful with Fe users and i do feel bad if i direct the conversation away from what they want to talk about... though in general, i wish they would just be more clear about what they want to talk about - and why, especially in the case of NFJs. FPs tend to be really up front about the reasons we're doing things, and often FJs, especially NFJs, are not so clear - it makes me nervous and impatient.
from my point of view, it's a little hard to understand why we should stay "on topic" (ie, restrict ourselves to only certain ideas or ways of expression) if a new, more important topic presents itself within the context of conversation. i get why you might want to start a new thread, but at the same time, then you lose the conversational momentum and already-engaged audience. the other thing about ENFPs is that we tend to wrap back around to the central point after a bit of tangential conversation. because it's really all wrapping back to the initial point - but that's hard for others to see because you're not inside our heads with us. so if you're a little patient with us, you can see how things work in our heads - when everything is a circle, you'll eventually end up back where you started.
we're all special little snowflakes and we're all wonderful and we're all equal... i see no contradiction.2. Most of you claim to see the best in everyone and that we're all equal; though it seems deep inside, you refuse to believe that as that will make you seem less unique. How would you explain about such contradiction?
i think that's more of an enneagram 4 hangup than an ENFP hangup.
sorry about your situation with your friend. i doubt this though. we don't tend to plan when it comes to other people and relationships. that's a Fe thing.Originally Posted by CrescentFresh