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    Default Do ENFPs ever "settle" and can they be content once they do?

    It's a common descriptor of ENFPs that they're always exploring the possibilities, questioning the what-ifs in life, and are prone to becoming bored and flighty. It's said that a lot of times this mindset carries over into their relationships, to include those of a romantic nature.

    So my question is: How easy is it for ENFPs to settle contentedly into a relationship and give up their "wonderlust"? Is it possible that this type just isn't meant for being confined to an exclusive relationship?

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    It's kinda hard...



    I'll expound later.
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    I suppose it would be common for those of us who spend an excessive
    amount of time dreaming. I know I was prone to become "bored," or
    better explained as "wanting to look for something else" when I was
    younger. But today, no.

    It does not mean that my love for that person would fade, and it does
    not mean that I would actually go out and "look for someone else,"
    but it does mean that the thought of "wanting to be free" or "seek
    opportunities"
    was there. It was just there, in the back of the mind.

    So, if this NFP has had some time to reflect on the past, then no,
    I do not believe that they would leave a relationship just to pursue a
    "what if".

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    I wish I could [blank] every girl in the world.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Deja Vu View Post
    I wish I could [blank] every girl in the world.
    Isn't that just a guy thing?

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    there are two steps I have to consciously overcome.

    The first is Ne endlessly scanning the horizen and looking for something more. Fi helps argue this by saying it isnt okay to hurt people.

    For me the result was choosing not to date at all. If I cant find the "right" person, I choose to be alone.

    The second hurdle in older enfps will be Te. If we have been forced to be independent, we will feel very "controlled" or even trapped being in a relationship. I would rather be alone, than be forced to change.

    Now funny thing happens when you find the right person...they become the horizen, thus you seek to Ne explore them...peeling an onion so to speak.

    Also, since you are emotionally invested in them, you will do things which appear to be giving up control or giving into their wishes-in order to make them happy. Their happiness becomes your reward. Since Fi is my core, since they become part of my Fi, I am not really changing myself...simply adapting around it to make it more comfy....

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    so I have been with my hubby(entp) for 17 1/2 yrs married for almost 12 of those 17 1/2

    we have had our struggles, our difference, my frustration, ......

    and while it's no secret on this forum of some of my stupidity, I am in love with him, always have been and always will be

    I think then that its' very possible to be happily connected, in love and with someone for the long haul.

    FYI it wasn't a physical thing I was searching for, it was an emotional thing. And that was all my stupidity was, and emotional involvement with another. If you can keep your emotional connection alive and well with the one you have chosen then you will have many years of Bliss
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    Quote Originally Posted by angell_m View Post
    Isn't that just a guy thing?
    Lesbians too.

    Seriously though, I would settle if I was having so much fun with a girl. Hasn't happened yet though. Either they get impatient with me, or I get bored.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Deja Vu View Post
    Lesbians too.

    Seriously though, I would settle if I was having so much fun with a girl. Hasn't happened yet though. Either they get impatient with me, or I get bored.
    So as long as your being stimulated, basically?

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    I haven't been in too many actual relationships but I prefer it that way.

    Getting married is going to be one of the biggest sacrifices I'll ever make. Surprisingly, despite my naturally romantic nature, I do not look forward to it.

    I'm willing to adapt for someone I truly love.

    I don't want to have kids until I'm like 70.
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