This is what I have a very hard time with. Other non-Fours may experience the same thing, I don't know. How is this rationalization of feelings different from what the Ti/Te doms/auxs do?
In order for me to be healthier, I am supposed to ... express ... my feelings even when I am uncertain? I am supposed to show them even if I feel it is irrelevant and irrational to the current situation. What is the difference between 'working through it by one-self' and 'hiding it from others in an unhealthy way'?Healthy Fours are honest with themselves: they own all of their feelings and can look at their motives, contradictions, and emotional conflicts without denying or whitewashing them. They may not necessarily like what they discover, but they do not try to rationalize their states, nor do they try to hide them from themselves or others. They are not afraid to see themselves “warts and all.” Healthy Fours are willing to reveal highly personal and potentially shameful things about themselves because they are determined to understand the truth of their experience—so that they can discover who they are and come to terms with their emotional history. This ability also enables Fours to endure suffering with a quiet strength. Their familiarity with their own darker nature makes it easier for them to process painful experiences that might overwhelm other types.