Pushy person here *raises hand* OK, I'm not that pushy, but I will certainly ask.
I have all kinds of irrational crap floating through my head all the time. This morning for example. I spent the night with my guy last night we slept on two twin beds pushed together that ended up 4" apart in the middle of the night, preventing snuggling. I woke up grumpy and irritable due to lack of cuddling How dumb is that? Like it was his fault??? I told him why I was cranky and he thought it was the cutest thing in the world even though I felt like an idiot. In the end we both felt better instead of me leaving grumpy and him sitting there scratching his ass trying to figure out what he had done wrong Sometimes people (not all people, but anyone who really wants to know you) will want to know what you are feeling even if it isn't rational.
My INFP (type 4, I think) guy reacts like you guys are describing. From this side of things, it is hard to genuiniely care about someone without judgement and have them turn away from you and shut you out when you want nothing more than to understand and care for them...I'm just saying what it feels like on this side of the fence.
That being said I still struggle with sharing the very deep, darker parts of myself so I still get where you all are coming from.