We've been together for 3 years. He promised me everything you could imagine. We talked about marriage and kids. We had normal arguments like couples do.
I've always been a bit uncomfortable about his constant reminiscences of his ex. They were together shortly before us. But I trusted he loved me and just thought about her as a friend. He used to see her now and then and they were pretty touchy-feely.
I know and she knows he wrote a love song for her back then 3 years ago. But he said when he plays it, he now thinks only about me and it doesn't mean the same. It's called after her name.
One day we planed to go out at the bar where she works. I was ok with it, untill he said why don't her and I play that song together there. I kindly as i could confronted him if our night out was about her and you expected to see her and to do that strange idea as a musician, I was not going.
He said something I didn't get, looked really mad, I've never saw him like that, and door slammed me and went there without me. He hasn't contacted me for 4 days. Before that there wasn't a day we haven't seen each other.
Did he breakup with me? Above all things he promised we would remain friends if breakup happened. So this is a shock to me.
Please help me what to do? Do you think he still has feelings for his ex? Was I a rebound? Was i cheated on?
What kind of INFJ would do this? I'm incredibly hurt.