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    I have problems with love, but that's because I believe it only exists in movies, books and screenplays. I see it as something necessary to get some satisfaction and to make the human race survive, however you don't need love for any of those anymore as vibrators, porn and sperm donation also help creating life ans satisfaction nowadays. Therefore love is completely useless and just for fun, if you like it.
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    Alright, so what i gather from most of you is that at least as an idealizing person, i shouldnt try and make things work but wait for that overpowering feeling. I guess my question then is how do i make sure that im not totally blind when it happens? How do i make sure im not rushing into something thats just inherently bad for me?

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    Quote Originally Posted by Emectar View Post
    Alright, so what i gather from most of you is that at least as an idealizing person, i shouldnt try and make things work but wait for that overpowering feeling. I guess my question then is how do i make sure that im not totally blind when it happens? How do i make sure im not rushing into something thats just inherently bad for me?
    Use your time when you are single to objectively think about what you'd like or not like in a partner. Keep asking yourself questions of what you are or are not able to live with.

    That when you are "blinded"...breathe in and out and recall all those questions and answers. Relationships are as much about feelings as they are about logic.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Sytpg View Post
    I wouldn't ask anyone out if I wasn't completely invested already, so I understand you. I wouldn't kiss someone if I wasn't completely invested already either.

    I think you should enjoy being single and not regard a relationship as an end but a means. A means to happiness. There are many. True, enjoyable, meaningful relationships will always come to be in a natural way. You can't concoct. That's why I don't believe in dating.

    And yes idealizing is dangerous. Cultivate your cynicism. Things are never quite what they seem at first glance. Don't be afraid to be hard on people. Grow only happens if one sweats.

    People often are very accepting of others in the beginning stages, and judging after a while. Try to invert that. Be judging, selective and unapologetic in the begging....and bask in the acceptance and joy of the relationship after that, if you have gone past the judging stages.
    Words of wisdom! Thanks for the reminder, I ll remember that for the next time around .
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