I'm having trust issues with this great guy I've been dating for a few years. It comes and goes and I'm not sure there's any real reason for it. The only thing that triggers it is when his ex wife texts him and he writes her back. (They don't have any kids.) I know she wants him back and I'm pretty sure he could care less. He's told me in the past that he wishes he would have married me instead of her b/c it was a mistake (she cheated on him). He'll also say he's never been happier, loves me so much, etc. So why do I feel so insecure when he writes her back? And WHY does he write her back at all? He's a very no-bullshit type of guy for the most part, but sometimes I feel like he likes that little bit of contact with her.
I've been cheated on in the past and every time I found out, it was a gut feeling. They would lie to my face even though I had heard things from numerous people. I would finally break down and look at their phone or email and find messages from another girl. This was more for just proof to end things. I WILL NOT go there with this guy... That's really not my style. When I think realistically about it, I feel like it's just past issues that are making me feel this way. I've talked to him about them staying in contact and how I don't like it, but he still texts her occasionally.
He once showed me their conversation - it went something like:
her: What's your address again? Sorry, I forgot. That's terrible, I know.
him: wow, you really are trying to forget about me. haha (gave his address)
her: thanks! i hope you're doing well! give the dogs love for me!
him: i hope you're well too. give the cats my love.
(When they split, she kept the cats, he kept the dogs.)
Should I just let this go, or should I address this again b/c of my gut feeling that I'm not hearing the whole story? God, I really hate baggage.