So in order for me to break out of it, I've found that the most effective way is by utilizing Te to make my Fi concrete and to help me distance myself from the situation so I can look at whatever my Si is picking up differently.
The first thing i do is go back to some of the events and try to gather more information. Often this is where i bring in my best understanding of MBTI and cognitive functions and try to see the situation through the eyes of the other person (AKA Ne). Once i've stepped back enough, usually i sit down and try to properly articulate my feelings, look at the situations that trigger them, and look for the big picture.
once i have gathered more information, properly identified what the Fi that's feeding my Si is in proper Te fashion, I rarely find the need to invest any more negative energy into the situation. I can now search for possible solutions, make a game plan, and then use that information to force myself into confronting the problem.
Thread: Common INFP Issues
07-27-2010, 06:45 PM #21[SIGPIC][/SIGPIC]
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07-27-2010, 06:47 PM #22
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07-27-2010, 06:49 PM #23
For INFJs, I think the biggest compliment you can give them is wanting to understand them completely and really know who they are at their core. Not asking seems like a rejection or lack of interest, particularly if they have invested a lot of time trying to get to know and understand you. Also not expressing something in my world usually means that I'm either neutral or holding back something negative (which I would probably only say if asked).
Conversely, I think that probing questions can sometimes be seen as intrusive by INFPs (although I think in person I have a pretty good sense usually of where that line is in relationship to how close we are). INFJs would see it as a compliment that they are interested enough to try to figure out how you work best. The big difference between us is that nothing is seen as totally neutral behaviour. Fe users tend to usually nothing=negative. Therefore if you don't tell an INFJ your positive feelings about them, they will assume there aren't any or that you even are beginning to feel quite negatively towards them. They'll try to ask about it sometimes and that seems even more annoying, I'm sure. I kind of think that INFPs like maintaining some sense of mystery too. If someone were to know everything about them, I think maybe it would engender some feeling of loss or being too exposed even if they really like that person.
So, how would you know if an INFPs feelings towards you are cooling off?
07-27-2010, 06:57 PM #24
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07-27-2010, 07:00 PM #25
We don't like emotional surprises. Therefore if you assume the worst, you're ready for anything. I'm not sure if that's why completely, but it's definitely a factor. Also every action, or inaction affects someone else, so I guess it's partly Fe perspective too. Also, we're unlikely to say something negative unless invited to, so our silence often can mean that there is something negative there that either hasn't been completely processed yet or that we don't consider big enough to make a deal of and risk conflict over (or our relationship isn't close enough to do so)..
07-27-2010, 07:00 PM #26
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As for feelings cooling, I don't think they do in a lot of cases, as soon as we see you again we'll be cheery with you, but keeping contact via pc/phone is something we often (ashamedly) forget to do.
Maybe someone else might be able to enlighten you there...
07-27-2010, 07:15 PM #27
INFPs are probably really fucking exhausted from how awesome they are.
That's got to be a real bitch to live with.
I salute y'all!
Seriously, I've never had a bad moment with any of my INFP friends.
Very cool, easy going, and genuinely nice and loving people, from what I have experienced. Thumbs up to INFPs!--------------------
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07-27-2010, 08:34 PM #28Dreams are best served manifest and tangible.
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07-27-2010, 08:36 PM #29
07-27-2010, 10:17 PM #30
...If I ask for input, please avoid cliches & give me some thoughtful, non-obvious solutions. Often, I'm really only asking for confirmation of ideas, but tread carefully in critiquing them as they are often tied to values of some kind. Similar to an INTP, there's a theoretical model in your head of the world, but it's very idealistic, a lot of "shoulds" and "woulds" and "coulds" that are hard to define in words, as they are felt in some sort of vague atmospheric way, and yet they are very clear to yourself. Often times, making them clear to others is not easily done, and that's what can lead to defensiveness or being closed off. It can also feel like too much effort at the time to talk & think simultaneously.
Wow this is long... Sorry guysINFP 4w5 so/sp
I've dreamt in my life dreams that have stayed with me ever after, and changed my ideas;
they've gone through and through me, like wine through water, and altered the colour of my mind.
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