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    Quote Originally Posted by NegativeZero View Post
    Does any other INFP hate showing up to school, or is at least reluctant to do so? I miss tons of school, and when I'm there I hate it. I once knew an INFP who did the same thing, and I've been wondering if other INFPs do this as well.

    I think it's because school does not jive with my Fi and there's nothing there to stimulate my Ti.
    I used to not appear to school every while because of being "ill". I didn't really like going to school, for different reasons (I didn't really feel well at school). In my last school years I stopped with that behaviour though, because I felt in general more well at school at that time.

    At university I became very lazy again though, and I don't visit all my courses, which brings me sometimes a bit in trouble as I figure out later.

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    I found secondary school a struggle.

    At university, however, I found things far more interesting. Plus, there were girls there - different girls! My Ne quivered at all the possibilities...
    That girls are raped, that two boys knife a third,
    Were axioms to him, who'd never heard
    Of any world where promises were kept,
    Or one could weep because another wept.

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    I was notorious for being absent from school. I actually did very well academically, and because of this, teachers did not call me out on missing a lot of class. They kind of looked the other way, as I still did my work & did it well, aced the tests, and was well-behaved when I did attend.

    In middle school especially (ages 11-14), I sometimes faked illness to stay home, but I was also legitimately prone to bad migraines as a teenager. My parents were the kind who'd sign anything I stuck in front of them, so my absences were always excused with parental notes. In HS I did not miss quite as much school, especially in the last two years as I was ahead on credits & left at noon (making it though half a day was less daunting).

    The reason I stayed home from school a lot was:
    - The social pressure & energy-drain of interaction. I was very shy, felt awkward & out of place, and I had few friends. Sometimes I just needed to hide away from it all. I'd prefer to stay home with books & music & daydreams. The social part of school was what I hated; I've always liked academics & learning & done well in it.
    - I was bored & arrogant. I figured if I could get straight As just going to school 3 out of 5 days a week, then why should I go everyday? Since I did not want to interact with people & I already knew the stuff we'd be learning, then I knew I'd just be bored & drained by school, and so I'd stay home. I felt justified in it.
    - Lack of structure & laziness. Sometimes I just did not want to get out of bed on time or follow a schedule. I was not good at keeping routine (I'm still not). It was easy for me to just stay home when running late or unprepared for class. I missed the bus a lot too . I'm very mood-oriented & would allow myself to spontaneously change my plans for the day on a whim. I'd literally be listening to a song & decide I did not want to go to class because I felt like staying home & listening to that song instead.

    I didn't miss college classes because it was an entirely different environment with different social & academic expectations. I really liked college & never felt like I wanted an excuse to miss class.
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    Wow I thought I was the only INFP that pulled that sort of stuff. For some reason I imagined others would be more dutiful and diligent than I was.

    I was probably one of the laziest academically minded students. I only did my homework about 2/3 of the time in high school. Usually I "left it at home" or "forgot to do it" or would use skillful delay tactics. But because I was generally a good student, teachers always let me off. I don't think I ever got a homework detention, which is odd because my school was strict on it. I pulled a sicky quite a bit too - mostly it was because I just couldn't face going to school. Occasionally there were specific reasons like drama class (ugh ). I was also frequently late, mainly because I couldn't get out of bed in the morning. I behaved myself in class and usually did the work (if the exercises weren't lame and pointless), so in spite of all this I got stuck with the goody good label.

    Like others, I was better at university. I liked the structure better and the fact I didn't have to deal with stupid HS social issues. Also I never had classes before 10am and I lived a 5 minute walk from uni - this made getting up in the morning less of an issue.
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    I stopped doing my Maths homework for a while (because the teacher was terrible with people). I started again when my father threatened to watch over me to ensure I completed everything that was set.
    That girls are raped, that two boys knife a third,
    Were axioms to him, who'd never heard
    Of any world where promises were kept,
    Or one could weep because another wept.

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    I have a hard time being around people, even ones I know and love. In turn I flake out on people, coming up with bullshit excuses as to why I couldn't make it.
    "why didn't you show up at the bar?"
    "I have sweaty boot rash"
    you know dumb shit like that.
    Relationships seemed like a unachievable goal set forth from god. I am still amazed that I had one for 2 years (although we never did have off together so that probably why).
    In a nutshell, people complicate things for me.
    "I put the fires out."
    "you made them worse."
    "worse...or better?"

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    ^ Sometimes I wonder if INFPs have the most complex love/hate relationship with people, and I mean people as a whole, not individuals. It's sort of the nature of Fi to be human/relationship focused & yet entirely contained & resisting being touched by others.
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    Quote Originally Posted by OrangeAppled View Post
    ^ Sometimes I wonder if INFPs have the most complex love/hate relationship with people, and I mean people as a whole, not individuals. It's sort of the nature of Fi to be human/relationship focused & yet entirely contained & resisting being touched by others.
    I am very much guilty of this - being a sensitive soul who grew up surrounded by a couple of judgemental figures (as much as I love them), I feel like I've retreated very much into myself, and although I love being in relationships, I have a nearly impossible time being completely open once in them. Maybe because my inner feelings aren't always 100% positive, and I loathe hurting people too?

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    Originally Posted by NegativeZero
    Recurrent feelings of self-failure
    Feeling estranged or helpless when emotionally overwhelmed
    Unaware of when to be assertive and when to be passive; the two functions are often used in inappropriate situations
    Intense desire for meaningful companionship conflicting with our stark introversion: unbearable loneliness results
    Tendency to contemplate rather than act, to project rather than solve esp. when the latter is often a better solution
    Conflict between logic and emotions — a desire to feel less esp. in INFPs with well-developed Ti
    Laziness, irresponsibility, immaturity, indecisiveness
    Paralysis from fear or doubt
    Stagnancy resulting from fear of change or unwillingness to try new things; uncanny timidness
    oh boy, do I relate to this list. My timidity depends on the situation, though, and I wouldn't consider myself immature or irresponsible. I've learned some habits along the way, like just blurting things out regardless of what I think others would think, and being prompt to appointments.

    The indecision is the worst part. My career paralysis lasted 8 years or so. I really suffered. Now just trying to figure out 'what creative project to initiate next' is just as painful.

    My issue though with having a 'definition' is that we might be lulled into thinking this is 'normal', and thus passive toward change.

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    I think I've just finished offending almost every single person I know... I hate offending people, but recently it seems to invariably follow people getting to know me. It's like the moment they see what I am coincides with them losing faith in me.
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