ah where to begin. ok. the whole spaciness etc. is due to P or in other words, no decisions till the outcome has been completely understood. J's just make a decision and keep trying till one works. not exactly better. The F means we have to feel that the decision will help vs solve the problem. pick your poison by any means. The I means we want depth and connection vs just getting out there and try,try,try till we get it right. If you want N then your trying something new and different vs tried and true. So basically your just dealing with someone who is trying with everything they can to be for all practical means perfect. They just want someone to appreciate that and then they will not try so hard and be able to enjoy life.