User Tag List

Page 10 of 39 FirstFirst ... 8910111220 ... LastLast
Results 91 to 100 of 386

Thread: Common INFP Issues

  1. #91
    thankful Array PeaceBaby's Avatar
    Join Date
    Jan 2009
    MBTI
    INFP
    Enneagram
    937 so/sx
    Posts
    6,079

    Default

    Repost - let me know where to send you the jam, Udog ...

    PB: INFP 9w1 so/sp

    -----

    Sharing my thoughts on this - it will be a wall of text. Apologies in advance.

    Hunker down, get a can of pop or something if you like.

    In all honesty I have to share what I feel about all these threads - although I do find redeeming information in each, they lack the unique perspective of age and experience. Some of what's here reflects the challenges of INFP's in their teens, twenties, some in their thirties, and I would posit that since each person matures at different rates and times, and the components of what constitutes each of us matures at different times dependent upon our circumstances, this concept of genericizing "Common INFP Issues" is tricky to pin down.

    I am facing patently different challenges as I travel through my 40's than I did in the decades previous.

    No doubt, my perspectives will continue to change ... my accumulated experiences and what I think of as wisdom will transform again ... and as I look back then, I will only recognize the shadow of where I am now.

    And I don't feel like a "typical" INFP (I doubt any of us do) and cannot claim to speak for all, only myself. So take all my responses with that disclaimer attached. I will just talk about ... me. See what fits you and doesn't.

    I am debating whether I should treat my response as a snapshot in time, or try to show some kind of progression decade by decade. Maybe I will do that later, if inspired.

    For now, I will respond in the "here and now".

    I'll share my perspective on Seymour's List first:

    Hypersensitivity - Yes, negative feedback does "smart" in that place close to my heart ... despite years of perspective to guide me, if you tell me that my work is poorly done it is near-impossible for me to initially distance myself and feel that this is not a criticism of who I am. What I do in the world is a reflection of how I try to live my life; I try to always do my best, and to do poorly is to be ... substandard. That initial "pang" of pain does ebb off and I can create an objective space to hear what has been expressed and not personalize it. But the first reaction is to do so. This all happens "inside", unless very wounded I internalize this entire process.

    Tendency to procrastinate - Oh yes too - any of you twenty-something INFP's take note ... this tendency is still alive and well in my 40's. I like what Seymour said, "the reality is always less than we'd like it to be" true that ... but I don't hold the world to the perfect ideals I used to. I still hold myself to them mind you; perhaps that is the next challenge. I would even say it's sometimes difficult to move forward to new career challenges or experiences in the "real world" because I do think back to all the experiential pros and cons under my belt at this point, and know that there are always pros and cons. Always. And there is no perfect. (Ah, it even hurts to type it like that, so definitively.) SO, in light of all that, I just decide to start. Now. Act. Do. Just do.

    Social Disregard and/or Cluelessness - In my early twenties, I used to write down what I wanted to say to someone, either on the phone or in person, to try to ensure I could say what I needed to say and not get stuck in some faux pas or conversational dead zone. Those days are thankfully behind me, and I feel I conduct myself with very polished manners and feel mostly at ease doing so - I am certainly not "clueless", not at all. In fact, I sometimes feel I am better at "Fe" than my Feeling compatriots, so well I have learned the "Fe" lessons. It doesn't always come natural to me of course, but learning Fe is watching Fe, so you can perceive how to "be" in the world by watching, evaluating and monitoring social conditioning. I only felt "lost" in my teens and early twenties ... then I worked in sales, forcing me out of my head and comfort zone, forcing me to learn all these great skills working with people. That helped me a great deal. I do find it tiring still ... using my "social graces" has a price tag, and I need a recharge after lots of extroverting in this way. And I do genuinely care about the group, so I can't say I disregard group needs either.

    Idealism/Absolutism - Yes, I do still have rose-colored glasses, the glass is half-full, I look for the beauty of the world and am distressed to find so much pain. I don't think it has made me cynical. So that's good. But experience has led me to lead a more balanced life, try to be a more realistic kind of person. I used to think I could save the world. I realized in my thirties I could only try to be myself and basically save myself, and be the best person I could be, and not expect everyone else to feel as I feel or want what I want or prioritize what I do.

    Fi values internal consonance and harmony - Yes, and at this point in my life, I am loathe to really let myself stew in ruminating continually over problems. I want to solve them, and solve them now. I let out the Ne / Te and work through my internal turmoil til I have found some inner peace on the topic. Then, when I know I have found the answer, I experience a feeling of "knowing" that everything is once again harmonious and will be OK now. I work hard to get out of that kind of pain. That being said too though, it can take hours or days to happen. SO my "percolation" is full-on and very surface, not so much behind the scenes.

    -----

    Some of my own summaries, from my own thoughts and amalgamated from other posts.

    My "Retreats" - I am going to summarize a few of the already expressed needs to withdraw and process. When I am not in an acute state of discomfort requiring the attention above, I can procrastinate on action with fantasy, movies, reading, forums, anything that allows me to stay in the "head" space and not really require me to act. I can make myself lots of nice lists on getting started with a new project, then the list just expands, as my mind prefers to focus on the new and not the "in-process". Similar to the ENFP, I like the bright shiny new things too ... they are way more fun than sitting with the to-do list! If I am feeling emotionally tapped out, after a very charged experience, or one that requires me to focus on the needs of a group for an extended period of time, I need require that down-time ... I need to just totally blank-out and stop thinking. So I paint, or write, or watch a favorite movie, anything that provides time to recharge the emotional batteries. Make me feel like myself again, and not drained out.

    My "Flexiness" - I try to be accommodating, and helpful to the best of my ability. I can sense what others feel, want and expect of me, and ME - I try to meet those needs. I think some INFP's get those same messages and deal with them differently than me. But me - your unexpressed wish is my command! (Sort of ... I want to make you happy, and I like to see you happy, so I do the things to make you happy.) Sometimes, that works great, other times, I can seriously over-extend myself. Still. I am comfortable with many different lifestyles, beliefs, opinions ... sometimes my stance on issues can be interpreted though as ...

    My "Wishy-washiness" - Yes, what a gift to be so accommodating, but sometimes one needs a strong opinion to stand solid with their own beliefs and choosing what is best for their own life. I have historically placed probably too much importance of what other people think rather than my own perspective or desires ... I try to find that balance point, that internal mediation of desire. I can often see both sides of an issue, and both have valid viewpoints. So I can occasionally be accused of not making a choice, trying to please everyone and not having a mind of my own. I mean, everyone else seems to know what they want. Why don't I? And if people are close by I cannot help but feel their wants and needs so how to balance theirs with my own? A challenge point still, but improving.

    This would tie into Cze Cze's assertion of bad boundary setting. Heck I didn't even know how to create any kind of boundary for myself when younger - I just tried to help everyone and make them all happy. And I attracted lots of "needy" people, who were energy-drainers, and who ultimately I could not save because they needed to save themselves.

    My "Fire" - If however, you break an Fi tenet: I most definitely have an opinion about that. I will stand and lead and fight for what I think is right. Example: 10 years ago, when they were going to close rural schools in our area based on very speculative enrollment data, I started a community group that grew to involve a large geographical region. And all those little schools (exception of 1) are still open to this day. When impassioned, I can be a force of nature.

    Finally I guess I'll mention what I think of as:

    My "Depth" - It is hard to convey all of what Fi is. Words don't do it justice. In fact, words seldom convey the nuances I wish they could; I cannot translate the wealth of my feelings into a few sentences; there aren't enough words even invented to do that with. So few people engage the world feelings first, and it is exciting and scary too, and I cannot express the depth of that to my own satisfaction even here.

    And

    My "Gut-feelings and Assumptive-ness" - Pretty much the whole environment, animate and inanimate, around me evokes these continual streams of feelings, and when I meet people, and people in context with others, I feel them and can get a read on them and the group quickly. It's wise however, not to regard such a thing as 100% accurate. BUT, that being said, many people I respected poo-pooed my intuitions and feelings on people and my read on situations, which started me to doubt as well. After all, when you feel that someone is upset, and then they deny it, and no one else around you gets that "read", why wouldn't you start to question this "ability"? History bears witness though ... almost all of these situations have proven to be accurate in the dynamics I picked up. So, especially at this point in my life, I honor that ability by paying close attention to it. Often when I "know" I am right, I am.

    I guess I mention this for two reasons: 1.) not to get too assumptive and cocky about this ability to feel and to intuitively "know" empathize BUT 2.) to listen to it, pay attention to it, and don't just let the world mash it down and make you doubt yourself all the time.

    -----

    There are many wonderful posts in this thread, but I must head to bed and shall perhaps process some of them in another post.

    In the meantime, these are my thoughts.
    "Remember always that you not only have the right to be an individual, you have an obligation to be one."
    Eleanor Roosevelt


    "When people see some things as beautiful,
    other things become ugly.
    When people see some things as good,
    other things become bad."
    Lao Tzu, Tao Te Ching

  2. #92
    Vaguely Precise Array Seymour's Avatar
    Join Date
    Sep 2009
    MBTI
    INFP
    Enneagram
    5w4 sx
    Posts
    1,535

    Default

    Quote Originally Posted by Chunes View Post
    Take this idea, and extend it to everything about us. We don't have a ready-made answer to give for anything. That's why we stand there with a dumbstruck look on our faces while you wait for us to answer. We have to derive the answer from scratch. You've asked us to build Rome in a day.
    I'm certainly not a blank slate (although I think I kind of understand what you are getting at); I build up positive or negative associations of people over time. However, I do think that Fi tends to do a lot of adjusting and evaluating in real time. I think that's one reason why ISFPs tend to find creating art compelling, since they turn run their Se perceptions through Fi to adjust their art aesthetically as they create or perform it.

    We INFPs build up our important values and our internal model of the world (much like INTPs do with their logic-based models). Still, compared to Fe-doms I think we are less fixed externally where Ne has more influence. We certainly have fewer social expectations, on the whole.

    Quote Originally Posted by FireyPheonix View Post
    What I have observed here are the 9's are less likely bite, when firey fi rises in their belly. 9's are more naturally diplomatic. They seem to have the least prickly bits, and are the warmest of the INFP's. 4's bite some times, and are more about self expression. They seem a little more clearly defined within themselves, in some respects, and more individualistic, if that's possible.

    There are a few 5's. We are most cantankerous of the INFP's I feel. Admittedly that could just be me. I think we are the darkest and the most cynical of INFP, and we are more likely to enter the fray, so to speak. I haven't come across any other ennegram types that I can remember. I also feel the expression of the INFP personality varies between the sexes. Male INFP seem more mellow for the most part, and slightly more detached.
    Feel free to disagree with me.
    I still am struggling to figure out exactly where I fit on the enneagram (despite having done a fair amount of reading and mulling on it)—I may have to go a conference to get a better "feel" for where I fit. At this point, I'm tentatively thinking 5w4 sx/?, since type 5 seems to match my central internal issues the best. I also tend to identify with aspects of Ti more than some INFPs, which seems to fit with being a type 5. At times I think I'm a 9 misidentified as a 5, since I identify a with Peacebaby's flexiness and wanting to meet people's needs to a degree. However, I tend to withdraw fairly easily and it almost feels as though part of that flexiness is just a way of avoiding being overwhelmed by external unpleasantness.

    So, if I am a 5w4 I don't think I'm highly cantankerous. Still, I don't mind debating points for fun (and I've certainly argued with people on the forums), and will disagree with people about intellectual matters if I think they are way off base.

    Quote Originally Posted by Rebe View Post
    I am definitely not a blank slate when I interact and when I make decisions. I have very strong opinions and I judge kind of fast, but at the same time I am also very open to new information and I do not mind shifting my views, tweaking them, discarding some, growing others.

    [...]

    I am not afraid of being flexible and open-minded, but I am afraid/concerned about being ethically wrong/inaccurate/inconsistent. I am always making sure things match up.
    I'd agree with the above. I have some important, fixed views I can be very rigid about, but many other things are open to interpretation and I don't mind trying on other perspectives.

    Quote Originally Posted by PeaceBaby View Post
    Repost - let me know where to send you the jam, Udog ...

    PB: INFP 9w1 so/sp
    Thanks a lot for reposting, PeaceBaby! I think it adds a lot to the discussion. After reading through, I feel as though I'm about 40% as accommodating as you. I definitely do tend to go along and am happy to do minor things to make others happy. Still, if I feel like someone's demands are too burdensome, I tend to withdraw.

    It did take some negative experiences for me to learn to actively set limits with people. I feel that I was so emotionally open as a kid, that the needs of others (as I perceived them) seemed imperative to meet. After some bad experiences (like being engaged to a woman with Borderline Personality disorder), I think I learned to set limits better and be more leery of the needs of others.

    Some other tidbits I thought added a lot (outside of the flexiness/wishy-washy-ness):

    Quote Originally Posted by PeaceBaby View Post

    My "Depth" - It is hard to convey all of what Fi is. Words don't do it justice. In fact, words seldom convey the nuances I wish they could; I cannot translate the wealth of my feelings into a few sentences; there aren't enough words even invented to do that with. So few people engage the world feelings first, and it is exciting and scary too, and I cannot express the depth of that to my own satisfaction even here.
    Definitely agree with that. I work hard to be precise (yes, despite my many, many typos), but it does get frustrating that it's impossible to entirely "bridge the gap" and convey one's subjective experience. I think Fi-doms are very aware of the complexity of their feeling states, which can make it difficult to boil it down to a simple evaluation.

    Quote Originally Posted by PeaceBaby View Post

    I guess I mention this for two reasons: 1.) not to get too assumptive and cocky about this ability to feel and to intuitively "know" empathize BUT 2.) to listen to it, pay attention to it, and don't just let the world mash it down and make you doubt yourself all the time.
    Agree with both points, there. Fi-oriented perceptions are not some kind of emotional telepathy that let one truly experience the emotions of others with no chance of misunderstanding. Some of us do tend to emotionally mirror the emotions we perceive in the people around us, but it is definitely fallible.

  3. #93
    thankful Array PeaceBaby's Avatar
    Join Date
    Jan 2009
    MBTI
    INFP
    Enneagram
    937 so/sx
    Posts
    6,079

    Default

    ^ bear in mind that my accommodation has a gender component and a role-based component to it as well ... I am a wife, a mother with now grown children, and this has necessitated the prioritization assigned them. I could not just think of me, or retreat, when I had to step up and be involved with my children's growth and development, or when my husband's job changed physical locations. It's not an option, you just have to do, and adapt.

    For much of what we learn in life is what we learn to do, despite any natural tendency for or against it.
    "Remember always that you not only have the right to be an individual, you have an obligation to be one."
    Eleanor Roosevelt


    "When people see some things as beautiful,
    other things become ugly.
    When people see some things as good,
    other things become bad."
    Lao Tzu, Tao Te Ching

  4. #94
    lab rat extraordinaire Array CrystalViolet's Avatar
    Join Date
    Oct 2008
    MBTI
    XNFP
    Enneagram
    5w4 sx/sp
    Posts
    2,170

    Default

    Seymour,
    It was a little in jest, the cantankerous statement....if anything INFP 5's are more detached from the group for the most part (if I can reference myself like that). We are the "silent" observers, speaking up only when some thing moves us too. We're very aloof and quite intense (?one track minded) I won't let go of a concept until I have it fully worked out. More so than other INFP's.(it's a relative statement however) I think we have a lot more trouble processing our emotions too, as we struggle more with them, I think.
    I read some where in the ennegramm section about how INFP 5 could come about...those magic little letter derivations. In my case sx, so (or was it the other way round? can't remember,) so you could be. I think we tend be slightly blunter than other INFP's. I think it's common in those who are borderline T/F.
    Currently submerged under an avalanche of books and paper work. I may come back up for air from time to time.
    Real life awaits and she is a demanding mistress.


  5. #95
    Member Array Flutterby's Avatar
    Join Date
    May 2010
    MBTI
    INFP
    Enneagram
    5
    Posts
    36

    Default

    Quote Originally Posted by SNUGGLETRON View Post
    I agree, then when a mutual thing comes along something MUST happen to ruin it.

    Other than that, biggest problem is taking action and moving forward with things. I won't go into detail but it is very hard for me to just do the damn thing.
    I don't actually have a comment to add on your post, I just wanted to quote you because I think you have the best username ever.

  6. #96
    You have a choice! Array 21%'s Avatar
    Join Date
    May 2009
    MBTI
    INFJ
    Enneagram
    4w5
    Posts
    2,619

    Default

    Wow. I was gone for five days and was overjoyed to see this thread come into existence. I'll go read everything from the beginning.

  7. #97
    Vaguely Precise Array Seymour's Avatar
    Join Date
    Sep 2009
    MBTI
    INFP
    Enneagram
    5w4 sx
    Posts
    1,535

    Default

    First, thanks for all the great input and discussion. It seems like it's a challenge to come up with "typical" issues since we INFPs are such quirky critters.

    So, here I'm trying to sum up a bit, and trying to address some areas that might be more enneagram specific. If I lost your important point when trying to group things up, let me know! (Rep comment, PM, or a post here are all fine.) I'm making a lot of guesses here, so feel free to correct me. I certainly don't claim any special insight, just trying to group things in a list others may find useful later on. I'll try to move these up to the first post if there's any consensus about them.


    Additional General issues:

    Indecisive/Inconsistent - because we extravert Ne, we can be very open to other ideas/perspectives where they do not intersect with one of our central values. This may mean we come across as inconsistent/wishy-washy/indecisive. In some cases, we may find ourselves agreeing with a perspective that is not our own, since we can completely see how someone could think/feel that way. (This trait may be more pronounced in enneagram type 9 INFPs)

    Trusting our perceptions of others too much/little - because of our combination of Fi and Ne, we often perceive things about the emotional states of others (often noticed because of a corresponding change in our own emotional state or mood). It can be tempting to see those perceptions as directly perceived truth, when they are, in fact, fallible. On the other hand, we can also be tempted to discount them entirely, which means we can discard often valuable insight. Finding a balance can difficult for many INFPs.


    Relationship Issues - INFPs have their fair share of relationship issues. They can include:

    • Issues caused by our tendency to disappear without notice. Like most introverts, we need time alone to recharge. Being Fi-doms, we may not give proper consideration to how this appears to others and what it communicates.
    • Issues caused by over-idealizing others and our relationships with them. The combination of Fi and Ne can lead us towards building idealized models of people and relationships. This can make dealing with the every day mundanity and disappointments of actual relationships difficult. (This idealized view may be more extreme in enneagram type 4 INFPs).
    • Some (but certainly not all) INFPs may have issues with keeping and setting interpersonal boundaries. For these INFPs, their awareness of and compulsion to meet needs of others may interfere with attending to their own needs and commitments. (This may be more common for enneagram type 9 INFPs, but is not limited to the enneatype.)
    • Like most introverts, we may have difficulties meeting others and forming friendships because we tend to spend time alone and may be quiet and self-contained when in more social settings.
    • Tend to suddenly become externally motivated, stubborn and/or passionate when a core value comes into play. The generally easygoing INFP may suddenly become anything but easygoing. This can cause relationship issues when suddenly a previously hidden side comes to the fore. A friend, coworker or significant other who expected your flexibility may feel upset or betrayed when that flexibility is suddenly nowhere to be found.


    Communication Issues - Fi self-awareness tends to be complex and varied. This can make it difficult for INFPs to communicate clearly or feel understood. Specific problems can include:

    • Like our ENFP cousins, we can be moody and inconsistent. This can lead to communication problems or negative evaluations from others, since we may come across as dishonest or undependable rather than merely mercurial. In particular, like all introverts we tend to need to withdraw periodically to recharge. This may mean we are warm and engaging one day and appear cool and aloof the next. We may also tend to disappear without warning periodically.
    • Our inner intensity can be difficult to convey. We may tend to hold back and tend toward understatement. We often feel more more warmly towards people than we convey. Others of us may vacillate between saying nothing and saying too much. We sometimes fear expressing our inner idealism directly for fear of it coming across of naive or insincere.
    • We may have a harder time communicating orally than we do in writing. Some INFPs may have a visual medium as their best medium of communication (although this may be more common for an ISFP).
    • May have a particularly hard time communicating in socially expected ways. In some cases, the expectation of a compliment/gift/appearance may make it difficult to express genuine feeling.



    Enneagram types and INFPs:

    Type 4 INFPs - Many INFPs may be enneagram type 4s. INFP type 4s may tend to:
    • Appear more idiosyncratic/quirky than INFPs of other types. The Type 4 need to be true to oneself combines well with the type 4 need to be unique.
    • Have more issues with over-idealizing in relationships, especially romantic ones. Fi can tend toward idealism inherently, and the type 4 yearning for the perfect (and unattainable) relationship meshes well with that.
    • Spend more time stuck processing an emotional issue, just running in circles and experiencing the associated intensely (the Fi/Si loop) as a result of the type 4 love of emotional intensity. The ability of Fi to regulate emotional state is used here to intensify emotions.


    Type 9 INFPs - The next most likely enneatype for INFPs is type 9. INFP type 9s may tend to:
    • Be more flexible and willing to meet the needs of others. The emotional awareness of Fi may be turned towards meeting the needs of others, sometimes to the point of not meeting one's own needs. This may also cause INFP 9s to appear particularly wishy-washy about subjects that don't intersect with core values.
    • Have difficulties setting/keeping boundaries, especially when young. The wish to meet the need of others may result in others taking advantage of one's willingness to be flexible, sometimes to the detriment of other relationships in our life.
    • May "fall asleep" to their own needs and keep busy instead. For INFP type 5s, fantasizing is likely included in the ways of keeping "busy".


    Type 5 INFPs - Some INFPs identify as Type 5s. These may be INFPs who test close to the F/T border. INFP type 5s may tend to:
    • Fall easily into being a detached observer, rather than a participant. While many INFPs have this quality (as it is common for all introverts), it is often more pronounced in type 5 INFPs.
    • Feel torn between engagement and withdrawing. Fi tends to concern itself with people and harmonizing values, while type 5s fear being overwhelmed by others. This can leads to type 5 INFPs feeling particularly torn when trying to begin or maintain relationships with others.
    • Like type 4 INFPs, come across as weird/crazy.
    • Appear to be more even keeled/flatter emotionally than other INFPs. The ability of Fi to regulate emotional state is used here to moderate emotional intensity. May have a hard time dealing with intense emotions when they arise (may attempt to flee into rationalizing and intellectualizing).


    Type 1 INFPs - A few INFPs identify as type 1s. Their input would be welcome here.

    (Any other semi-common INFP enneagram types?)




    As I said above, feel free to correct me, add things or fill in gaps.
    Likes Tinyclaws liked this post

  8. #98
    Lungs & Lips Locked Array Unkindloving's Avatar
    Join Date
    Dec 2009
    MBTI
    ENFJ
    Enneagram
    4w5
    Socionics
    ENFj
    Posts
    2,885

    Default

    Quote Originally Posted by JoSunshine View Post
    "Bad boundary making and keeping. Moreso that INFPs let undesirable/unwanted advances continue and allow people to latch on to them. This is bad for them but also a source of vexation for the INFPs actual friends, family, and SO."

    I call it "squeeky wheel syndrome". I find that he has a tendancy to rush to satisfy whoever screams the loudest regardless of the significance of that person or how good/bad that person treats him. I find myself feeling like I am left out in the cold a lot of times. So then I get upset which results in him bending over backwards to make me happy. Then I get comfy and he runs off to put out the next fire and the next one and the next one - then I get upset again. Then he comes back around. It's difficult for me to relate to becuase I treat the people who are consistantly the nicest and most considerate of me the best and the idots and asses can go straight to hell. It seems to be the other way around with him.

    I'm exhausted! I've tried talking about it with him. He drives himself (not just me) crazy. Any advice short of me jumping up and down raising hell everyday?

    BTW, I adore him. He just drives me kind of bananas.
    I used to have this issue with an INFP ex and ex best friend. I actally call it the puppy dog syndrome, but that tends to imply it is directed at one person.
    When untainted, they get excited when their master comes home and are on them every step of the way, jumping and practically knocking them over. Otherwise, they'll pant and trip up anyone else who is willing to pet them. It's very self-sacrificing.

    Even our type can relate to needing some damage under the belt to resort to self-preservation. It's really about experiences and awareness. It can be overcome, but the self-preservation adverse is difficult to handle too.
    Just keep communicating. The lack of Fe dominance means they don't read into us like we read into others. I was discussing it with Mystic Tater last night- Fi needs informative tools to grasp people. Explain your side thoroughly- the feeling, the theory, the mechanics of it, and see if it gets picked up on.
    Quote Originally Posted by runvardh View Post
    It's called priority management, some need to learn it more than others. I've been burnt out significantly enough when I was growing up that some fires can fucking stay burning till they run out of fuel themselves. Some people don't like that attitude for some reason, though...
    It depends on how hard toward that side you are. I agree though. There has to be some burning at times to acquire progress. The reason people may not like it is if you went from one far end of the spectrum to the other far end of the spectrum. There is a balance and the closer you get to it, the more people will approve.
    The ones who don't are in need of some fire under their ass

    Quote Originally Posted by Seymour View Post
    • Issues caused by our tendency to disappear without notice. Like most introverts, we need time alone to recharge. Being Fi-doms, we may not give proper consideration to how this appears to others and what it communicates.

    • Like our ENFP cousins, we can be moody and inconsistent. This can lead to communication problems or negative evaluations from others, since we may come across as insincere or undependable rather than merely mercurial. In particular, like all introverts we tend to need to withdraw periodically to recharge. This may mean we are warm and engaging one day and appear cool and aloof the next. We may also tend to disappear without warning periodically.
    These two often send me into fits of wanting to gnaw the flesh off of INFPs
    Hang on traveling woman - Don't sacrifice your plan
    Cause it will come back to you - Before you lose it on the man


    .:: DWTWD ::.



    2011 TypeC Exercise Challenge - My Weekly Goals: Cardio 4x. Yoga/Pilates 1x. Pushups 70.

    There is this thing keeping everyone's lungs and lips locked - It is called fear and it's seeing a great renaissance

  9. #99
    Iron Maiden Array fidelia's Avatar
    Join Date
    May 2009
    MBTI
    INFJ
    Enneagram
    1w2 so/sx
    Posts
    9,347

    Default

    Seymour, thanks so much for summarizing it like that. Very helpful!

  10. #100
    にゃん Array runvardh's Avatar
    Join Date
    Jun 2007
    MBTI
    INFP
    Enneagram
    6w7 sx/so
    Socionics
    IEI
    Posts
    8,559

    Default

    Quote Originally Posted by Unkindloving View Post
    It depends on how hard toward that side you are. I agree though. There has to be some burning at times to acquire progress. The reason people may not like it is if you went from one far end of the spectrum to the other far end of the spectrum. There is a balance and the closer you get to it, the more people will approve.
    The ones who don't are in need of some fire under their ass
    I'd like to think I've balanced it, it's just people like to yell fire when all they need to do is step on it and the problem will go away. Also, certain people's issues have different base urgencies that some are a little less than enthused about what I have assigned them. The thing is, that's the same number they have assigned me, so I leave it in the realm of their problem.
    Dreams are best served manifest and tangible.

    INFP, 6w7, IEI

    I accept no responsibility, what so ever, for the fact that I exist; I do, however, accept full responsibility for what I do while I exist.


Similar Threads

  1. [INTJ] Common INTJ Issues
    By highlander in forum The NT Rationale (ENTP, INTP, ENTJ, INTJ)
    Replies: 302
    Last Post: 11-09-2016, 10:42 PM
  2. [INFJ] Common INFJ issues
    By fidelia in forum The NF Idyllic (ENFP, INFP, ENFJ, INFJ)
    Replies: 659
    Last Post: 10-19-2016, 02:22 PM
  3. [ISFP] Common ISFP Issues
    By highlander in forum The SP Arthouse (ESFP, ISFP, ESTP, ISTP)
    Replies: 83
    Last Post: 07-07-2016, 10:29 PM
  4. [NF] Common INFP-INFJ Relationship Issues
    By Lenian in forum The NF Idyllic (ENFP, INFP, ENFJ, INFJ)
    Replies: 2
    Last Post: 04-22-2016, 01:28 PM
  5. [INFP] Is anyone going to write a Common Issues INFP thread? Anyone?
    By Rebe in forum The NF Idyllic (ENFP, INFP, ENFJ, INFJ)
    Replies: 11
    Last Post: 07-28-2010, 08:30 AM

Posting Permissions

  • You may not post new threads
  • You may not post replies
  • You may not post attachments
  • You may not edit your posts
  •  
Single Sign On provided by vBSSO