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[ENFP] Ask an ENFP.. For real!

INTPness

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Once I get to know ENFP wimmenz, we usually like each other - a lot! So, here's the question: Can you be happy as my girlfriend even if I don't give you constant, 24/7 attention? It sounds bad, but can't you, like, go away for a couple days or "go do some girl stuff for long periods of time without calling me" and still be happy? I promise if you do this one little thing, then the time we spend together will be absolutely phonomenal! Because I'll be refreshed, clear-minded, and ready to mingle with you (Ne to Ne, no less).

This is a serious (non-critical) question. Is it just too much to ask of an ENFP because they thrive on interaction with their loved ones?
 

Lady_X

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Hahahaha oh shit that's funny z
 

RaptorWizard

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Why does ENFP seem to be the most common type on Typology Central?
 

Zarathustra

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Ok, so I was thinking about starting a new thread, but I don't really want to be the starter of a fucking "Ask an ENFP" thread, and, after thinking about it for a moment, I realized, in light of the history of this thread, it would be hilariously appropriate to hijack it in order to give it back some semblance of actul purpose. So, from here on out, by decree, this thread no longer belongs to whatever ENFP started it -- the past is now just a relic of some half-brained ENFP idea. The future of this thread now belongs to ENFPs in general, built on a perfect bedrock of epic ENFP fail.

So, first question: when you say something like this...

[MENTION=4945]EJCC[/MENTION] I think the usual ENFP tactic is just to pick some elements in the INTJ's communication and twist them around a bit and see how the INTJ responds, and that's how you can get a read on them. It's like Heisenberg uncertainty, they don't have any Si grounding, but at least you can figure out how they're moving at the moment. And then you get them to have to play your game too because then they have to figure out what your position is and because their Si sucks they find that tricky and intriguing too, and then while they're distracted, you pounce.

:laugh:

How does our Si sucking make it tricky for us to figure out your meaning?

I don't deny that our Si sucks, and I don't deny that, when you do as you described above, we start playing the game with you.

I also don't deny that we find it intriguing, because, well, I most certainly do; it's just, I find such play intriguing with others Ni doms too.

The part I'm not as sure about is whether we find it tricky (this may be the case), and, if we do, how this is caused by our having shitty Si.

I mean, you guys have shitty Si, too; how do you know it's not your shitty Si that's causing the problem?

And, if there even is a problem, is it worse between you guys and us, than between us and Si-doms?

There can certainly be a disconnect between us and SJs, but I don't know if we have this supposed difficulty "seeing" their Si that so many ENFPs seem to whine about. Frankly, I think I see what SJs are pointing to pretty frickin easily, I just tend to disagree that what they're seeing is the whole kit-and-kaboodle. By contrast, I think you guys suck at expressing your Si; it seems like its so implicit (i.e., subconscious) in everything you express, that you really don't have a very strong understanding of how it colors everything you think/believe, and, as such, I think you guys wield it rather poorly.

So, whose fault is it really that we don't "see" your Si? Ours, or yours?
 

Lady_X

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I totally just pictured you with your arms crossed and glaring at us with all that. Haha

Why didn't you just ask skylights?
 

skylights

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Ok, so I was thinking about starting a new thread, but I don't really want to be the starter of a fucking "Ask an ENFP" thread, and, after thinking about it for a moment, I realized, considering the history of this thread, it would be a hilarious appropriate to hijack it, and give it back its purpose. It no longer belongs to whatever ENFP started it -- that is now just a relic of some past half-brained ENFP idea. This thread now belongs to ENFPs in general, built on a perfect bedrock of past epic ENFP fail.

So, first question: when you say something like this...



How does our Si sucking make it tricky for us to figure out your meaning?

I don't deny that our Si sucks, and I don't deny that, when you do as you described above, we start playing the game with you.

I also don't deny that we find it intriguing, because, well, I most certainly do; it's just, I find such play intriguing with others Ni doms too.

The part I'm not as sure about is whether we find it tricky (this may the case), and, if we do, how this is caused by our having shitty Si.

I mean, you guys have shitty Si, too; how do you know it's not your shitty Si that's the problem?

And, if there even is a problem, is it worse between you guys and us, than between us and Si-doms?

There can certainly be a disconnect between us and SJs, but I don't know if we have this supposed difficulty "seeing" their Si that so many ENFPs seem to whine about. Frankly, I think I see what SJs are pointing to pretty frickin easily, I just tend to disagree that what they're seeing is the whole kit-and-kaboodle. By contrast, I think you guys suck at expressing your Si; it seems like its so implicit (i.e., subconscious) in everything you express, that you really don't have a very strong understanding of how it colors everything you think/believe, and, as such, I think you guys wield it rather poorly.

So, whose fault is it really that we don't "see" your Si? Ours, or yours?

The funny part, Z, is it was initially a discussion on trolling, and I was sort of meta-trolling. I mean, I guess I was somewhat serious when I wrote that, but for the most part I just wanted to be snarky because I saw a good opportunity for a laugh. But now it's even funnier because I think I sort of did exactly what I said ENFPs do to INTJs in my post, which is that I gave you a static in response to your dynamic and it made you stop and question.

(TBH, this is how my thought processes usually work. I half-ass some response and then the actual truth of it starts occurring to me and I delve into it. I guess that's the real power of N at work.)

But as to what you wrote, I think the problem with INTJ Si - and I agree ENFP Si is shitty too, precisely in the way you described - but I think the problem with INTJ Si is that you guys don't readily grasp the point of it. ENFPs do, even though we're crappy with wielding it, since it's essentially the basis of our dominant thought process. We couldn't make any of the connections we make without it, so we "get it" on a teleological level, even though we don't see it half the time. We do work off the principle that there are static, fixed qualities to elements of the universe and those elements in collectivity constitute reality. Whereas I don't think INTJs really see that so much on an inherent level, since you're so concentrated on the internal archetypes of processes within time. The same is true for ENFPs of Se, of course. We kind of get it, and we can see it, but we don't really grasp the point of it, not on an instinctual level. I mean, yes, I can see how enjoyable it would be to take in all that reality as it comes and readily respond to it, but aren't you missing out on a lot of meaning there? That's how Se feels to me and I suspect Si has a similar baffling quality to you. It seems like it's missing something important.

There can certainly be a disconnect between us and SJs, but I don't know if we have this supposed difficulty "seeing" their Si that so many ENFPs seem to whine about. Frankly, I think I see what SJs are pointing to pretty frickin easily, I just tend to disagree that what they're seeing is the whole kit-and-kaboodle.

Well, and when watching SJs at work, I think I have a pretty good understanding that they are handling things piece-by-piece, building towards a whole instead of working from the top down like NJs. My best friend is an ENFJ and I can kind of see in her strategies the drawback of NJ issue-addressing - a lot of times she is totally immersed in issues that aren't really even issues, because they're sort of big collections of issues shoved together into one, and sometimes it seems like she's getting frustrated about the whole when she could just take the issues in groups and maybe it would be more manageable and she could focus on the things that are really an active problem and just let the others go, for the sake of practicality. That's part of what I think you guys tend to miss with(out) Si. Like it seems kind of simple to you because you're not really understanding the whole in a Ne light, and how Si parses it up.

So, whose fault is it really that we don't "see" your Si? Ours, or yours?

Lol, neither and both, of course.


Incidentally - it admittedly is pretty classic ENFP to start a thread promising something exciting and revealing and to never not yet have delivered. And you, sir, have a penchant for kidnapping threads and running away with the ENFPs booty.
 

Starry

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And surprise, surprise, no video was ever made...

Go Team ENFP!!!

:static::static::girlpower::static::static:


I don't know why...but for some reason I actually find the fact that no ENFP answered INTPness' question 'funnier in an ENFP-way'...than Hotpinkheatwave never creating the video she promised to create...haha!


Once I get to know ENFP wimmenz, we usually like each other - a lot! So, here's the question: Can you be happy as my girlfriend even if I don't give you constant, 24/7 attention? It sounds bad, but can't you, like, go away for a couple days or "go do some girl stuff for long periods of time without calling me" and still be happy? I promise if you do this one little thing, then the time we spend together will be absolutely phonomenal! Because I'll be refreshed, clear-minded, and ready to mingle with you (Ne to Ne, no less).

This is a serious (non-critical) question. Is it just too much to ask of an ENFP because they thrive on interaction with their loved ones?

Yes INTPness. If you are looking for a long-term mate that doesn't require constant 24/7 attention...ENFP would probably be a safe bet...haha!
 

prplchknz

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do you think about thinking about things that you shouldn't think about?
 

Lady_X

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i love that it says for real!!!! in the title hahaha
 

Lady_X

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and purple if thats about you drinking...just don't...some people just can't!
 

Zarathustra

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Yes INTPness. If you are looking for a long-term mate that doesn't require constant 24/7 attention...ENFP would probably be a safe bet...haha!

What did you mean by that laugh at the end?
 

Lady_X

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my guess is that it was a funny question to ask

are you worried she's being tricky?? :laugh:
 

Lady_X

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well i don't know...was trying to figure out what else it could mean or how you could've read it.

and thought maybe it could've sounded not entirely sincere??
 

Zarathustra

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Yeah, I'd say that's a pretty good read...

I'm worried that ENFPs need constant attention 24/7 if you're in a LTR with them.

I can't be a babysitter for my SO; I want quality time, but they need to be able to handle their own.

And I don't want that free time turning into "oh, since you weren't here, I went out and met this guy friend, but don't worry, it's totally not like that!"
:rly???::rly???::rly???::girlpower::rly???::rly???::rly???:
 

Zarathustra

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*has a feeling this question is going to go unanswered just like ENTPness'*
 

Starry

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What did you mean by that laugh at the end?

The whole thing was cracking me up a little bit. I mean...I think there are some ENFPs that require a lot of attention...but for the most part I hear the opposite complaint (which I imagine is enneagram related). I mean even I, as an ENFP e7, can become a little frustrated with my ENFP e7 friends (I have two of them that are so/sx)...because they are always off chasing down the *new and exciting*. And I assure you...their SOs have PLENTY of time to spend alone to *recharge* and follow their introverted pursuits...which is what INTPness was expressing concern for. The ENFPs I mention are very loving...and are in long-standing relationships...but their SOs are hardly complaining about the need to provide their ENFPs with constant attention. Again...I primarily hear the opposite complaint. As in...I wish I could spend more time with my ENFP. I guess I would get the same laugh if I was reading a post in the ISTJ section that read...'If I was in a relationship with you...would I be expected to go out every night...to parties or restaurants or movies etc.? Or could we spend a few quiet evenings at home alone?'
 
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