"The Language of Love"
The author Gary Chapman came out with 5 basic styles of love in a relationships in his book The Five Love Languages. The five languages are as follows.
I. Words of Affirmation style.
Communication to be used : compliments, affirmation, kind words
Actions to be taken with this style: send notes and cards.
What to avoid: criticism.
II. The quality time style.
Communication to be used : one to one time, not interrupting, face to face conversation.
Actions to be taken with this style: take long walks together, doing things together, taking trips.
What to avoid with this style: long periods of being apart, more time with friends than with spouse.
III. The receiving gifts style.
Communication to be used with this style : positive, fact oriented information.
Actions to take with this style : giving gifts on special occasions and not so special occasions.
What to avoid : forgetting special day.
IV. The acts of service type.
Communication to be used with this style : action words like "I can," "I will," "What else can I do?"
Actions to be taken with this style : helping with house and yard chores, repair/maintenance, acts of kindness.
What to avoid : ignoring spouse's requests while helping others.
V. The physical touch type.
Communication to be used with this type : a lot of non verbals, verbals need to be word pictures.
Actions to be taken with this type : touches, hugs, pats, kisses
What to avoid : physical neglect or abuse.