Yes, I think thats fi desire for intimacy. I think it's something you learn through trial and error where to invest in and find. And then when you feel more secure because y have that connection yuou will find y have less of an urgency for it.2.) I know that most people say that ENFPs are the ones leading people on, but I find that I'm the one seeking more closeness than people seem willing enough to give me. I'm the one checking in with my friends and family and putting out more effort that way. I get disappointed and disenchanted with people often as a result. I have the feeling that they always let me down. Does anybody else have this experience?
1) Don't write off overt shows of emotion or sweetness as fake. Its funny how people read different things as real or fake depending on the language they understand. Guahinessnfrom acquaintances and strangers can make me embarrassed (though from friends it's appreciated ) but I understand everyone has their own way of doing things. I think fe and fi can cross wires often and get interpreted as fake or manipulative when the intent is not meant that way and the person is being authentic in their own way.3.) I absolutely hate inauthenicity. When somebody flatters me (and seems to be buttering me up rather than being honest) or has a lovey-dovey gushy communication style it makes me want to puke. I have somebody like this in my immediate family (the family I married into) and it's really difficult to manage. I never want to respond to the icky gushy texts, etc. Anybody have this experience also?
2) Play along mnowing that ybwont get sucked in. If its not your cup of tea just give minimal answers or respond as if the person were riting normal texts and speaking in a more monotone manner. Gushy people aren't necessarily asking you to also be gushy if you look at it that way you won't find it so invasive.